(Closed) I Don’t want to leave my mommy!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s really hard, I just moved 6 hours away from where I grew up and went to college.  I talk to her on the phone almost every night. I know you are much farther but maybe you can fly over for a weekend every once in awhile.

Sometimes I feel very lonely because I left all my friends behind as well and while he seems to be making friends through work I just got my job and am working with only 3 older people.  I’m trying, and I know it will get better- positive outlook is something you need.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sometimes you have to make sacrafices.

Massachussetts isn’t a million miles away. It could be a lot worse. Yes, you won’t be home for the the little things and you will miss some family events but it could also be the start of a great adventure.

I’m assuming you’ve lived in the same place your whole life? It is quite a change to make a move. But when you get married, you create a new family with your husband and you need to decide what’s best for you as a couple.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Aw!!!

I moved 2 hrs away from my parents when I graduated college and moved in with Fiance. The first few months was great, and then I started getting homesick! I never got homesick in college, but once I realized that I was living out of the house for good, I would cry and cry. Fiance didn’t know what was wrong with me! I still get horrible sad when I visit for the weekend and have to leave. My Fiance just knows now that the day after I visit, I will be sad and mopey.

I lived in the same place my whole life and I am an only child, so it was really hard to move. It gets easier…and there is a sort of freedom about being able to leave where you always lived and make a new life somewhere else. You can always visit, email, phone and skype!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can do it! This will be outside of your comfort zone and hopefully a great learning and bonding experience for you. Think of it as a fresh start! We’re  moving after our wedding and I’m also scared, but we know we can always come home.

p.s. I’m from Mass, we’re not so bad here… Wink

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You can do it!  I think sometimes it is better to move away and “restart” without your family.

I just moved 2 hours away (sometimes it feels like a million miles, because I don’t get back to visit as much as I’d like).  But somehow you do keep in touch and stay a part of their lives.  My mom got texting, we share pictures, we chat on facebook and skype…you just make it work.  Not to mention that you cherish the visits with them even more ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Remember that a move is not necessarily permanent – if want to move back later, you can. I’m in the same boat. We’re moving for my FI’s job a few months after the wedding, from MA to CA. I don’t really know anyone there, but I’m looking forward to trying something else, making new friends, and getting a chance to establish a life out there for just the two of us.

You can totally do this! Best of luck.

Also, I’m with Moja Milosc on one more thing: MA rocks. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would be scared to move far from my family too, but I’m sure you can handle it. My SIL moved across the Atlantic Ocean to be in NY with my brother. I know it was super hard for her, but she made a commitment to really stay in touch with home. She got a cell phone with unlimited international calling, leaves Skype on all the time, and talks to her family every day. It really helps her feel not so far away. Her 1 yr old neice recognized her straight away when she visited home this summer, cause she is so used to seeing her on the computer! Boston to Chicago isn’t too far, and it would be an awesome opportunity to live in a new city for a while.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If you’re having doubts about this being a good decision for you then you need to talk with him!

I could never leave my family, not for any amount of money. I already lost my dad, time is precious with family. Money can’t buy family!

That is a good amount of money but at the same time it is up to you as well, even though you trust his judgement it doesn’t mean he’s always right or that you always have to follow. 

Good luck in whatever you decide!

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