(Closed) I don’t want to nag…

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I ask about it again?
    Yes; it's your dress, and you have a right to know where exactly/roughly she is on it : (28 votes)
    41 %
    No; give her a week : (22 votes)
    32 %
    No; she'll let you know when it's done : (18 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    330 posts
    Helper bee

    It’s like the most important thing ever! I understand not wanting to nag, but I would want to be informed.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I understand being anxious to get your dress in motion, but at the same time, come November you’ll still have a whole year to go until your wedding – and if your friend can do a muslin mock up between now and then, she can easily get your real dress done in less than a year. ๐Ÿ™‚

    The way you handle things now will set a tone for the way you’ll handle it with your dress. I’d give her until early November and then mention it – only because I wouldn’t want to seem overbearing, personally.

    Post # 6
    Member
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think I would give her a couple more weeks. If she is working and/or going to school, it could be a very slow process and I am sure she just wants to get it right.

    Post # 8
    Member
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    The way I see it, is you gave her a deadline of November. If a teacher assigns a paper due in November, are you going to have started it in August? She has at least 2 full months – it will probably only take her about 2 weeks to do. I know you’re worried that it’s your dress, but if you give her a timeline, you need to stick with it. Don’t bug her, or you risk her backing out of making your dress entirely.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1569 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    You definitely have the right to know what is going on with your dress, but given that your wedding is fourteen months away, I’d go easy for a while. I wouldn’t start to nag her for at least a few more months.

    Post # 12
    Member
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    i’d just give her a little bit of time. i’m the kind of person where, if i say i’m working on it, i’m working on it. She may be just working on it slowly, too. give her a few more weeks and just be like, “I’m DYING of curiousity. How much is done?! Ps love you”. Play nice a little even if it’s obnoxious.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @Statutory Grape: I totally understand your fear, I was once a senior art major, and my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) is this year too. And honestly, I have given her no duties because I know how busy she will be. You said you’re planning on asking her around October, I can tell you that she will be stressing about midterms around that point. Maybe just ask her to hang out and then bring it up later? Don’t pester her about it like its the only thing you guys can talk about, just *randomly* inquire. If I were her I’d want to get this out of the way, but I’m neurotic ๐Ÿ™‚ Just let her know that you don’t want to bug her but you want to make sure your dress won’t interfere with school , and that you are just so excited to get started on the dress! Yea, that sounds good I think ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
    Member
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I misread your date.  I voted to ask her, but you have a whole YEAR.  I wouldn’t nag her at all until at LEAST May of 2011.  Six months out would be an appropriate time to START nagging her, but more than a year out?  I can see why she’s putting you off.  Maybe she thinks you’ll change your mind?

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