Post # 1
My fiance and I do not need things for our house. I also don’t really want money that I will use on bills and not even remember in 6 months. What I really want people to get us, if they choose to get us something, is a gift from the heart. It can be small, it can be handmade. I don’t care. I just don’t know how to tell people this. I feel tacky even bringing up gift giving with our guest but I know gift registries are super popular these days. I don’t understand why because it always feels so cold when buying a gift off a registry. Its like buying someones groceries off their grocery list. But my fear is if I tell people we aren’t registered they’ll think we expect cash. Which is untrue and in my opinion a little tacky. Are people going ot throw a fit because we’re not registered?
How should I word this and where?!
Post # 3
Just don’t say anything. People will buy or give what they want.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Instead of including registry information with your invites (a practice that’s become common, although I think it’s somewhat tacky), you could include a short message such as:
“In response to inquiries, Michael and I would first like to thank everyone for their loving generosity. We have elected not to create a traditional registry because the only gifts we’d like to receive are your love and friendship. For those who are still looking for ideas, a small homemade treasure that we will cherish for years to come is more than we could ever ask for. Thank you again, with our deepest love and gratitude– Jane & Michael”
(Obviously, I just picked random names)
You could also e-mail or FB post (restricted to wedding guests only) the same message to answer people’s inquiries. Also, make sure both immediate families and all of the wedding party knows your preference, because they’ll field a lot of those questions too.
Post # 5
We didn’t register and requested no gifts on our website and by word of mouth. I would say maybe half the guests complied (so far – wedding was on Sat.) with our no gifts request. Of the ones who got us something anyway, three were physical gifts of the guests’ own choosing. We got a number of gift certificates actually – to restaurants and home goods stores. And then some checks/cash. So I would say that most people have been “trained” not to buy a gift of their own choosing. So if that’s really what you want – and I personally agree that it’s more special to receive something hand picked by your guests – I would go with julietteeliza‘s suggestion.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think julietteeliza’s phrasing is perfect, except add “handmade *or hand-picked* treasure”. I’d be a little worried if I thought I HAD to make you something, and I doubt you’d want whatever it turned out to be 😉