(Closed) I don’t want to sound like a brat, but…

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I worked at Williams-Sonoma for 6 years.  I cannot tell you how many people would pull a registry, you would show them plenty in their price range and they would say, “You know, I think I am going to get them a nice Mikasa crystal/silverplated/whatever picture frame.  They’ll want extra frames for all their wedding photos.”  I would always smile sweetly and say, “That’s nice, then they can return it and get whatever they want.  Did they register at Macy’s?”

I must say–my guests were awesome about getting us registry items.  We only got 1 gift that wasn’t on a registry.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@norab2684:  Don’t feel bratty.  This is definitely annoying.  I love the personal gifts, but it’s really annoying when someone sees “coffeemaker” on your registry and then decides to buy a different coffeemaker.

I had someone similar happen.  I honestly just didn’t take the stuff I actually registered off the registry.  So, if I registered for white china bowls to go with my china and someone bought me other white china bowls, I kept the originals bowls on the registry.

No one said anything to me.  Can you imagine THAT convo?!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I fee you!  When we did our registry we put stuff down that we needed/wanted.  Darling Husband and I were already living together so we already combined two houses and had a lot of duplicate stuff to go through and get rid of.  It really annoyed me that people just bought whatever they wanted to.  And we probably already had two of them at one point and we definately didn’t need another one. 

I’m worried about the same thing happening for our baby registry.  I’m hoping people follow the registry so we don’t end up with 5 baby bath tubs or something.  And we have all the baby’s bedding and room decor set up, so if somebody decides that they are going to buy extra bedding or blankets that don’t match, it will really annoy me.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I had the same issue for my wedding and it was even worse at my baby shower. Out of my whole baby registry I got 3 things that we registered for… 3!!!! Like a pack of bottles and a thing of diapers which I really needed is going to set you back more than the outfit that you picked out that is the wrong size and the wrong season!

I have a hunch that some people don’t want to buy anything so they re-gift the things they got that were not on their registry! If you don’t want to go with items on the list or take the time to hunt them down (which can be a pain, as we have all had to buy gifts) then get a nice card and a gift certificate. Or get a group of friends, family, or co-workers together and get a big item as a group. I would rather 4 people get together to buy the $300 Dyson I have wanted for 6 years, than get 4 random gifts that I may or may not have really wanted. Because when you get that little gun in your hand you start scanning stuff that you may not really need, just so you have enough in every price range to make people happy.  

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Now that I have a registry I totally agree. However, whenever people have had baby showers in the past, I just buy them cute shit and never even look at the registry

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Seriously–people are buying you a gift.  They didnt have to get you anything.  Be grateful.  There are plenty of people in Alabama who have NOTHING now who I’m sure would LOVE to have half of what you are complaining about receiving.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just don’t understand it, they freak out and piss and moan when you dont’ make a registry, but when you do they buy whatever they want.

I find it most strange of all that people would “enjoy” gifting things that aren’t wanted. I feel joy in giving when I know that the person really wants and is happy about the gift. I find it really insulting that they apparently think they “know better” and know what you REALLY want. Gaahhh. (Can you tell I’m dealing with this issue with the future in laws right now? haha)

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve been lucky.  For my shower, a few guests bought off-registry, but it was all stuff I like!  They were also really good about including gift receipts.  I did get quite a few spatulas and flippers as add ons though.  At least those do wear out over time, so a few extras will prevent me from having to buy any for years.  I might return some if I get more though!

 

So far, no one has bought a different brand or style of something we have registered for yet.  We’ll see if that changes.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is reminding me of the first wedding ever went to as an “adult” guest and I bought them something totally random that was not on their registry. I don’t know why I did that! i just didn’t get it.

Once everyone started getting married and I was going to 3 or 4 weddings a year, I figured out why that was so wrong. Maybe some people were in my same boat, or if they are older, haven’t gone to a lot of weddings recently and don’t remember.

When I hang out with this girl, I still get slightly embarassed about that stupid gift.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@norab2684:😛 I totally get it!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i would get annoyed too but then i have to remind myself that it’s a gift.  i get plenty of gifts that i don’t need/want or not my style but i am grateful, esp. if i know it was thoughtful.  i try to be thoughtful when i give gifts so hopefully people will reciprocate.

i’m almost glad that in my culture, we give cash instead of gifts.  i will have to put together a registry for my “american” friends and family.  i really don’t know what to put on the registry because i’m over 30 and i bought most of my nicer household stuff.  someone mentioned the nice metal measuring cups and spoons.  i bougt myself the all-clad set because i was tired of bf using the plastic ones to measure oil despite the numerous times i showed him the glass measuring cups for liquids.  i have the big kitchenaid mixer, the le creuset dutch ovens, the all-clad pots and pans, the keurig machine, 36 hand-blown wine glasses (stemmed and stemless), w hotel bedding, henckels flatware for 16…i guess i can register for the $140 per place setting china and real silverware but that’s not our style.  heck — i can’t even get bf to use a knife to cut his meat.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@LindaD76: I don’t think  the OP is being ungrateful, she’s saying she’d PREFER something off of their registry.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What is worse is when people make you something that is supposed to have a lot of sentimental value or meaning and they worked really hard on it… Great, so where am I gonna put this quilt you made to look like our faces?

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ahh…I would never do that to someone else for their wedding. People spend a TON of time on their registries to prevent that from happening!

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

im nervous about our registry. no one has gotten anything off it. i know we still have time but i registered at 2 main stream stores so hopefully things wont be too crazy lol

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