(Closed) I don’t want to sound like a brat, but…

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 62
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377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@norab2684: Dog biscuit mix?  WTH?  It’s kind of hard to be gracious with that kind of gift!  LOL!

Post # 63
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524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ArwenBride: This!  A million times this!

 

I just find it extremely frustrating when people assume they know better than I do what I need in my home.  We have also gone through a decluttering phase, and yea, I put 3 $100 knives on my registry.  If I get cheaper ones, I will return them.  Why?  Because we have 15 crappy knives that need to go. 

It sounds horrible to admit, but Fiance and I didn’t put ANY kitchen gadgets on our registry (whisks, garlic press, spatulas, baking sets, etc) because we have all these things and I want to upgrade the quality.  But, if I put the $15 garlic press, I know someone’s going to get the $5 cheap version, that I already have.  So we just avoided putting them on, and decided to purchase them ourselves after the wedding.

I am grateful for people taking their time out to spend our wedding day with us and to celebrate.  If a gift is involved, that’s fantastic.  If not, that’s fine too.  You came and had a great time with us. If it’s an off-registry gift, that’s fine, as long as it’s done with us in mind.  A gift is supposed to be something special.  An item/items picked out because you have a special relationship and you want to honor that.  It’s meaningful.  But, if the gift-giver goes in with the mentality that “they know better” or they didn’t “like” our plates, they’ll get us something they like, then I reserve the right to be frustrated.  Because that’s not what giving a gift should be about.

Post # 64
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m reading through this not believing that this happens so often.  I have never veered from a registry in gift giving, and if there is nothing left in my price point, I just give cash.  It is sort of a pain for the couple to get something off the list because you know they are going to return it.  I do understand how some folks may want to be more sentimental, and I would welcome a gift that is homeade or heart felt from someone that wanted to give from their heart like that.

You are not being a brat in my opinion.

 

EDIT: It is sort of a pain for the couple to get something that is not on the list…  I just reread that, and it read the total opposite of what I meant.

Post # 65
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798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@norab2684:  No problem.  🙂  

One thing though; if you haven’t received the dog biscuit mix yet (weird!), then it’s possible that someone went shopping for you shower, bought you something from your registry, but also did some personal shopping at the same time.  Sometimes, the store adds all the purchases someone makes at one time to the registry.

Post # 66
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44 posts
Newbee

Be grateful for what you do have – and remember: “the best things in life are free” 🙂

Post # 67
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89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have been lucky – only a few off registry things: potholders and towels (we registered for these but they didn’t ahve the exact ones in the store so she got similar ones – good enough), a chop n scoop (not super useful since we have nice knives but i’m not worried about making a use for it), a spoonrest that clips on the pan (super awesome!!! i didn’t even know that existed!!!), a gorgeous ring from Future Sister-In-Law and also Future Sister-In-Law addressed all my thank you notes for me (umm best gift ever?) I did get a random “memory box” that  I don’t really have a use for…but there is no gift receipt so I am not sure how to return it. 

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