Post # 1
A friend of my Bridesmaid or Best Man (who I sometimes run into) recently got married. My Bridesmaid or Best Man told her that I am trying on my aunt’s dress (why she told her this I have no effing clue… Note to self: stop confiding in bridesmaids [email protected]$#$#@!). So of course she said oh tell her she should try my dress on too!!
1) I didn’t like her dress.
2) My aunt’s dress was never worn (broken engagement)
My excuse would have been oh, I want to buy a new dress and have that whole dress shopping experience, but she knows that I’m trying on a “used” dress already.
How can I put this without hurting her feelings? I mean do I try it on and then just say I don’t like the way it looks on me? I really don’t want to be bothered though. ( that sounds meaner than I intend it to!) She’s a very sweet girl, and I know it’s coming from the heart and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. It was a nice dress, just not for me!
Post # 3
Maybe you could tell her you already tried that one on somewhere else, or just politely say that you had a different style in mind that you are really set on and would like to explore that first (hopefully its a totally different style lol).
Post # 4
@s_h_e_l_b_s: Hmm I am worried about saying I tried on her dress before because I haven’t gone dress shopping. I’m not sure what my Bridesmaid or Best Man has said to her, but she might have told her that I haven’t gone yet. Maybe I’ll try and tell her that I want a different style… I just don’t want it to come out wrong!! Thanks! 🙂
Post # 5
I would try it on and tell her, “It’s beautiful on you, but I don’t think I really pull it off.” I tried on FSIL’s dress and pretty much did the same thing. It was pretty, but not really what I wanted.
That way, you can get the whole ordeal out of the way in a civil manner.
Post # 6
Can you just tell her thanks but no thanks? I’ve noticed not coming up with an excuse usually works. If she keeps asking just tell her you don’t want to.
Post # 7
I’d point out that your aunt’s dress is never worn, and you’d like one that’s “new”, even if it’s “used”.
Post # 8
Yea, if she’s a friend of your Bridesmaid or Best Man, i wouldn’t sweat it.
Can you tell her you already have one in mind, and thank her very much for offering?
Post # 9
Just thank her for the offer and tell her that you will keep it in mind when you start dress shopping. That way you don’t hurt her feelings and maybe your Aunt’s dress will be the one and you won’t have to try anymore 🙂
Post # 10
You can tell her that her dress isn’t the shape or the look you’re going for and that it, while absolutely stunning, wouldn’t really fit your wedding vision. I think that’s nice, it compliments her tastes, and gets you off the hook!
Post # 11
Just tell her that you are trying the dress on as a curtousy to your aunt that is beloved and that you still plan on going out and finding the “IT” dress and her dress is not the style you are looking for as you could never pull it off as good as she did.
Post # 12
I’d tell her that you love your Aunt’s dress and only want it so politely decline trying on her dress.