Post # 1
This is really hard for me to write, but I need to know if this is “normal” or if I need to seek help.
My child is almost 3 months old. From the start she was a real challenge. At 3 weeks pp I was begging my boss to let me come back. He wouldn’t let me. I couldn’t wait to get back to work. I heard this was normal for many women so it didn’t worry me. I’ve been back to work for amost 6 weeks now and absolutely hate going to get her at the end of the day. The second I pick her up I start looking forward to dropping her off the next morning. I absolutely dread the weekends. The weekends are complete hell for me.
She’s been a very colicky baby from the start and while people said it should be getting better at this age she seems to be getting worse. Her daycare provider says she’s wonderful during the day – cooing and smiling and squealing for her. Once I pick her up though, she screams from the second she’s put in the car until she falls asleep around 11. The doctor doesn’t see it when I take her because she’s fine during the day so she can’t help.
I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
It sounds like you could have post-natal depression, which is very normal but very dangerous. Many women lose their lives to post-natal depression and I strongly urge you to see a doctor about the way you are feeling as soon as possible. This does not make you a bad mother in any way. Lots of love to you and I hope you can move past this, with a doctor’s help, and begin to enjoy the things this new year brings to you.
Post # 4
Please talk to your doctor immediately. Like, today.
I went through very very nasty post partum depression that lingered for over 2 years. PM me if you want to talk about it, I tend not to get into it too much on the boards.
Post # 5
Sounds like post partum get help right away and don’t feel imbarrased many woman suffer from it. But get help right away.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I agree with the others, see your doctor.
Post # 7
That sounds awful, I’m sorry you’re going through it. It does not make you a bad person or a bad mother. I agree, see your dr asap.
Post # 8
I also agree with this being post partum depression. There is so much help, resources and medication available for this now. Please contact your doctor immediately and confide in your Darling Husband or a trusted friend immediately. For your daughter’s sake please get help. This is not your fault at all and very common.
Post # 9
I agree with the PPs that this sounds like post partum depression. Please talk to your doctor about how you are feeling.
Post # 10
You should definately talk to a professional about post partum. Also, for the colick, try changing formula to neutragamin or allumentum or if you are brestfeeding take milk and soy out of your diet. It can really make a difference with colic.
Post # 11
I agree with all the PP’s and their reccomendations. You are not alone or abnormal.
Here is a book I have read and I think you may be able to relate to
Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression by Brooke Shields
Post # 12
Your little girl sounds exactly like me as a child – sweet and calm during the day, but screams from 5:30pm to 11pm. Like my mom was, and like previous posters have suggested, I’d say you’re suffering from postpartum depression. Back when I was born people weren’t aware of it and didn’t talk about it and not being able to get help is one of my mom’s biggest regrets. She survived by going back to work early and handing me off to my grandma after work and on the weekends.
Today, your feelings and postpartum depression are normal and treatable. The sooner you talk to your doctor and start treatment, the sooner you’ll feel better and be able to bond with your baby. Your doctor will likely be able to offer you antidepressants to help regulate your brain chemistry and counseling to get you back on track.
Don’t be ashamed of how you’re feeling, just get help asap.
Post # 13
I was going to recommend the Brooke Shields’ book as well – I remember her talking about how she had none of the normal ‘mom’ feelings and hated being with her child.
But definitely talk to your doctor ASAP. This does not make you a bad mom – many new mothers go through it.
Post # 14
@saraja87: How long did that go on for? I’m searching for some kind of light at the end of the tunnel.
Post # 15
I 2nd the Post Pardum. I would get some help. It isn’t your fault but it is something that needs som help getting through.
Post # 16
Just wanted to say it is nothing to be ashamed of. I had post-partum depression with my first child and my biggest regret is that I didn’t address it sooner. Go see your doctor!