(Closed) I ended my engagement

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Was I right to end the engagement?
    Yes : (168 votes)
    98 %
    No : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 47
    Member
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    You definitely made the right decision to walk away! You should be proud of yourself for being strong and there’s nothing wrong, absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting to be treated as an equal and that your feelings and opinions matter. He clearly has very old school views on women as property and inferior. He told you that “you have to make sacrifices for love”??? But what about him? There’s zero compromise on his part! And I can’t believe he said “who are you to keep a guy like me waiting around?” like he’s God’s gift to the world.

    Stay strong and know that you did the right thing, your happiness is important and needs to come first. You have a right to have the freedom to believe in what you want and know your self worth! I’m rooting for you!!

    Post # 48
    Member
    938 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    WhatMaeBee:  This.

     

    I think you’re right.  I lived in an area in NYC with a very high orthodox population – they even have certain streets in which women must walk on one side, and men on the other.

     

    But REGARDLESS of religion, you made the right decision, girl.  Emotionally abusive, controlling… who is he to think that’s at all ok?

    Post # 49
    Member
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    sgirl1000:  I think you absolutely made the right decision. He is being emotionally abusive and it would clearly only get worse. 

    I also think you made the right decision not mentioning the religion. I understand just general curiosity, but it doesn’t actually matter which religion he is. I can totally imagine someone having this same conversation with in-laws about Christmas. I mean, I have a friend who was chastized by her freaking seamstress about not getting married in a church… all because my friend is Mexican and therefore “must be Catholic” and therefore MUST get married in a church. She’s not religious at all. It was absurd. 

    Post # 50
    Member
    494 posts
    Helper bee

    sgirl1000:  “who are you to keep a guy like me waiting around”?  Oh, honey, no.  Who is he to act like Gods gift (no pun intended)?  It sounds like he wants a submissive wife who has no freedom of thought, speech, or individuality.  If that is was he wants, good for him.  He will make one (un)lucky lady very (un)happy In a different (dictatorship) relationship.  Count yourself lucky for realizing your own individual worth and find yourself someone who treats you with the respect that you deserve! 

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