Post # 1
I ended my engagement this afternoon. You can read my previous posts dealing with mine and my ex fiancé’s struggles at trying to work through our incompatibilities regarding each of our ideas on where to live, religious differences, etc. I posted that back in July; we just broke up today. Since then, we have been talking and trying hard to find compromises but in the end I felt that we were just too different to have a happy marriage. I’m so sad that I had to make this decision, and he is very hurt. Im not quite sure what the next steps are. We had not put any deposits down so thankfully we are not losing any money. My mom volunteered to let extended family know, and I’ve talked to my close friends and family. I still have the ring but I’m sure that we will need to meet up so I can return that and the keys to the house we used to share (we are currently LDR due to my recent move for educational purposes). Anyways I could use some kind words right now. Thank you!
Post # 2
I’m so sorry you have to go through this, even though you know it’s for the best. Hope you have good friends and family to support you right now, to let you grieve and work through this <333
Post # 3
Read your old post! It’s sad because it seems like he’s a good guy and you both have a good relationship, but from what I read, it seems like you’re the one who wasn’t compromising as much, like you kept on choosing places closer to your home town or something. I’m close to my family too, so I understand that, but remember; someday you’ll only have your husband by your side. You’re siblings will eventually leave, your parents will be growing old with someone by there side (hopefully) and all that… And you will grow old too and will only have your husband beside you. I’m a catholic as well. After being with my husband for 4 years, married for less than a year, I’m still not sure what his religion is lol, mostly because I keep on forgetting or would think hat he’s joking around lol, plus I didn’t grow up in a very strict catholic family even though they’re somewhat religious, so I never cared much about my husband’s religion. Anyway, I hope you made the right choice. Compromising is very important, and if you want to be married someday, you’d have to do a lot more compromising than you think. Good luck!
P.S. Can’t you guys find a place that’s in between?
Post # 4
How sad! My sister ended her engagement 2 years ago and she was heart broken at the time- breakups are tough! But now she is having the time of her life being single. Take your time to cry, shout, and go out and get drunk. Have a 1 night stand if that sounds like fun. Eventually you will meet someone else who will share the views you do. Look back and think about what you’ve learned about yourself and what you are looking for in a future relationship and marriage. You will get through this and be a stronger woman!
Post # 5
Cupcakenurse: I’m sorry you couldn’t work it out, but it sounds like you’ve chosen what is right for you to achieve your happiness. Try to get him the ring and the keys as soon as you can… or even mail them! You want to get him behind you and I wouldn’t recommend contacting him for a while if ever again. This only makes it harder to move on. But as PP said, go out with friends, even if you have to force yourself at first. Try online dating! Even if you don’t want to go out on dates, it’s at least a confidence boost to see so many people who are interested in you! Don’t forget why you did this, remember that your happiness comes first.
Post # 6
I am sorry things did not work out for you guys. It seems like you did the rigt thing for yourself and that is what matters. Evrything will work out for the best for you. Hugs**
Post # 7
It takes strength to walk away from an engagement.
Many women would have stayed to save face or for security.
May your healing bring you to a happier place.