Post # 1
hello everyone! Im writing this post because, out of the blue today, I just felt a little lost. Like, im sitting at home because it’s Presidents’ Day and I thought, this is great, but do I even want to be a teacher? The answer is no. I’m a substitute teacher today because it pays better than my last job as a cake decorator, but I don’t feel fulfilled with this job, nor do I pretend to believe I’ll like it any better when Im running a classroom full time. but thats what I’m working toward, because it pays better. Weird right? I was never concerned with how much money I made until recently. Now it’s like it’s the only thing on my mind.
Im getting my teaching certification and as I’m in school I already feel trapped in what’s supposed to be my “back up plan”. I want to write scripts, make movies, act, sing, make art. But I barely have time for any of that because I’m stuck in classes and a job that I had convinced myself was in line with my goals but it really really isnt.
Now I’m only 22, but normally when I say I’m getting married anyone who knows me really thinks I have my life together and they aren’t really surprised. I live with my fiancé, we’ve been together for 3 wonderful years. We pay our own bills, are on the same page about our future, and we both have respectable jobs.
Would suddenly changing my career path screw up what we have going? I really don’t know. But some days all I want to do is make a portfolio and become a tattoo apprentice, or take a month and write the script thats been eating away at my brain for YEARS and try to sell it to someone who would do it justice, or pack up everything and move somewhere where it would PAY to act! Like I have this creative bug in me and nothing I’m doing is feeding it.
I decided to face the reality that not everyone who is creative can get paid to do it, but sometimes I wonder why I gave up when Im still so young and have so much time to do something I’m passionate about.
what would you do?
Post # 2
You are young. It is tough when you are young – simply because you don’t have the nest egg that helps you get ahead. That nest egg is money, experience, time, etc., that you can put towards something else – something more fulfilling. Once you make more money, you have money to put towards something you love more. Once you have more time (because you have more money, or just because you no longer need to take classes to make that money) you can focus on what you love.
I am definitely coming from the perspective of being financial comfortable makes other dreams come true, but I think you should be patient and keep your dreams alive right now, and then can focus on them on your future.
As you said – you have some much time to be passioinate about it. But right now, it may be best to get you to the position where you can enjoy it and focus on it, rather than be stressed about making it work. In 10 years, you will still be young!
Post # 3
I think you may make a great Art or Drama teacher. You do have a creative side, you maybe able to pull it out in other young people.
It is important to acknowledge that a good percentage of people never know what they want to be. Many people do go into work for just a pat check. As a teacher there are many areas that you can branch out into. You also will have summers off for writing, or part time job doing something artistic.
Post # 4
Honestly speaking, I didn’t think I would be a teacher forever. I had subbed and going full time into teaching was a better option than what I was doing. But I went into it figuring it was a good option for the time being.
That was a decade ago. Now, I can’t imagine myself in another career. Is it hard and is it long hours? Hell yeah. But the relationships with the kids and the opportunities are endless. Is it worth it? HELL YEAH… If you want it to be.
Let me be clear: I’m that artistic type too. Would I rather sit in my PJs and work on my novels? Sure, sometimes. And I do for about two weeks every summer. The other six weeks are spent on summer jobs, prepping for the upcoming school year, trainings, etc but I save at least those two weeks for me and what time I can during the year. I’ve also taken on sponsoring the after school drama club and the three shows we put on a year – which has opened the door for me teaching drama during the school day, as well as things like TV Production, and IB Film. I’ve been tapped for other talents and interests I have, the result being that I’m never bored because I have the opportunity to teach multiple subjects that are of interest to me, and I get to share that interest with enthusiastic kids. Some kids are less than enthusiastic, but they’re the ones who make bigger strides – and nothing better than that kid who everyone else had given up on and figuring out that hey, that kid just needed an outlet and film editing is it. And now that kid is an adult and he’s making money at it and he came back to give YOU a hug for pointing him on a path that’s fulfilling.
My point is that this job is hard but it so worth it if you choose to invest in it. That being said – if you do it, and find that your heart truly isn’t into it – find something else, both for your sake and your students’ sake. This job is too hard and requires too much of yourself if you don’t want to be there, and the kids can sense it (And will behave accordingly). First year teaching is super rough, and you probably won’t get a ton of chances for the classes you really want in your first couple of years, but this is one of those jobs where you get out what you put in.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about any of your reservations!
Post # 5
thanks for the words of encouragement. However, I really don’t care about young people. The reason I wanted to go into teaching is so I could have summers to pursue film, art, and writing. I actually can’t stand children. I have not a nurturing bone in my body. Plus as a substitute I try to care and they just walk all over me and they couldn’t care less about school or me or anything. Its infuriating. Id hate for a student to come back to hug me for pointing him in the direction of a fulfilling job because Id probably feel envious that he did what I never had the guts to try to do.
That being said I know I need some job to pay the bills and get me through school, so here I am. My only question now is WHY am I in school if its just leading me into a bummer of a job and not something I love?
Post # 6
talk to your partner. You’re both young enough to start a new career bath and return to the old path if you so desire. As long as you don’t yet have children to care for NOW IS THE TIME TO TAKE RISKS. You can only fail and try again. It’s fun and worthwhile to try something different even if it doesn’t work out. If your partner loves you he’ll understand your feelings. This might not happen immediately as we all have knee jerk reactions but if you’re open honest and rational he may surprise you. ..
Post # 7
but please finish school in something just to have a backup
Post # 8
I kind of get it. It’s hard when you want to follow your dreams but your bank accounts and financial responsibilities are literally SCREAMING no! I want to start a company, but I need money to be able to spend money in order to make money.
I think this is a hard time in life. I’m 24 this year and I started dating my Fiance when I was 17. On one hand I have this very mature relationship, and I’m engaged. We own a section which we are building on. Then on the other hand I have no idea what I’m doing, having so little money makes me feel trapped, and in turn that is really demotivating.
I think the only thing is to just keep on keeping on. Don’t lose sight of your dreams but don’t gamble everything to get there. I guess this is ‘welcome to adulthood.’
Post # 9
I really, really hope you don’t take offense to this because I’m not trying to be rude at all.
But as a teacher, and a student who really struggled with learning, I don’t think you should keep teaching at all. People who get into the profession with no desire to educate or make a meaningful impact on children do nothing but hinder the classroom atmosphere and ultimately create a hostile learning environment. You don’t want to be there, and when you’re in a full-time classroom that is going to be even more evident and all it’s going to do is make the children not want to be there.
Post # 10
I think the money and the time off is a bad reason to go into teaching. The job is taxing, low paying, with a ton of overtime. If your heart is not in it, it’s not for you.
Post # 11
I appreciate how honest you are about this. And that being said, I do think you need to reconsider your career path. Kids are automatically worse to subs regardless of the subject or grade just because they think they can get away with it – but if there is no nurturing aspect or care for the kids and their education, you’ll only be hurting yourself and them if you keep pursuing it with no desire to do so. This job is too much blood, sweat, and tears to do if you don’t even like it a little bit.
Summers off are a myth, so if that’s your main reason, stop now. I spend most of my summer working other jobs to keep paychecks rolling in, in meetings, or in trainings. Those two weeks I allow myself to write in August are my big luxury. And to be honest, I don’t feel like I’ve failed in terms of my own artistic endeavors. I’m a published author, I get to paint or make music on a daily basis – there’s just no fame or notoriety involved (maybe it’s just a different perspective on the pursuit of artistic endeavors).
What age are you subbing for? I’m not a huge fan of small children – I need teenagers and kids I can hold an intellectual conversation with.
Why not pursue a job at a local theatre? I don’t know what area you’re in, but there might be a professional theatre nearby that has job openings where you could work your way up and be able to get your name in for auditions or more creative roles. Maybe a local radio station or art gallery? I don’t think the expectation can be that you’d land a dream job, but there are potentially a lot of opportunities to work your way up in some artistic type of career.
Post # 12
this was very helpful thanks! I have talked to Fiance about it and he will support me in whatever I choose to try to do! 🙂 I was surprised at how open he was to the idea of me finding something else. He even found othrt alternatives for jobs I could try once I finish my English degree if something creative doesnt work out and I decide not to teach – which it seems is a really bad choice for me.
very wise! Good to know I’m not the only one in this situation 🙂
no offense taken at all, thats a really realistic way of looking at it and I’m happy to take that advice. I don’t want to negatively affect a student’s education in the least.
Post # 13
a big reason I was interested in this was the summers off. In fact we’ve been waiting on getting a dog because I’ve been thinking Id have a summer off to train it on a few years. If that’s not usually the case I should definitely find something else.
ive mostly subbed for high school and middle school. Middle school drives me batshit. High school is fine I just feel useless And bored,
Our local theaters are overstaffed. The area we live in is not very artsy so it’s very difficult to find a position in anything creative here since they’re basically all run through volunteers. But we’re looking at options as of today!
Post # 14
I agree 1000%.
Like a PP – you aren’t really off summers. It’s a myth. I always have different trainings to attend and often try to get a head start on lesson planning for the next year. I myself teach middle school and couldn’t imagine myself with any other grade level. They bring such joy into my life and I always have great stories to tell DH. High school and elementary aren’t my cup of tea.
Teaching isn’t for everyone – I’d look into another program and even come certifcate programs offered in your area or online. Also, look beyond your town. Start volunteering, etc. in the areas you want to pursue. Also, if the area is small start thinking about where you’d like to move where you both could be successful.
Post # 15
Those are terrible reasons to go into teaching. Seriously- do your future students a favour and choose a different career path.