(Closed) I feel bad, but…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would keep asking.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

@WillyNilly:  ah! I know how that is, I was literally picking up quarters off of the floorboard of my truck and pocketing them to buy coffee the week of the wedding…things got tight!

Is there any way you can schedule a quickie hangout with her before the wedding ( mani/pedi, fast brunch) so she can swing by and pay you back?

 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just say, Hey I know you are going through a rough patch right now but I do need that money back that I lent you. Something along that lines.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I would ask again, and again until I got the money.  Nobody tells you how poor you’re gonna be right before and after your wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah girl, you need that money.

Casually say something lie, I know you’re do busy and I wouldn’t pester you if I didn’t absolutely have to buy I need that cash!!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Gosh it’s easy to say “Ask for the money back!” I loaned a friend about $400 at the start of the year and have, so far, seen $50 of it come back my way. Obviously, asking is going to be the only way you’ll get it back, but that’s easier said than done! Perhaps try giving her a rough payment plan and a deadline? For example, “I know you’re struggling a bit at the moment, but I really need you to pay back at least $50 by the end of the week/month, so I can pay off the last of the cake/flowers/whatever. If it’s not paid by the end of the week/month, then we have to cancel it.” Maybe just try to give her a sense of the urgency that you’re feeling, but still try to break it down into affordable payments for her. Good luck!

What’s the saying? Lending money to a friend is a good way to lose both!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

You need that money back, especially since your paying for that wedding right now. Tell her money is extra tight, and if she needs to pay you $20 now, $10 next week, and so then then so be it, YOU NEED IT

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@WillyNilly:  LOL….everytime you see her just casually say, hey, do you have that money you owed me, sorry have to keep reminding you is that I really need it. Thanks.

I wouldn’t get tired of asking 🙂 I think I would be a good collector LOL

Post # 13
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515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My rule of thumb is never lend money that I can’t afford not to get back, especially where it involves close relationships. Nagging your friend if she flat out doesn’t have the money will only cause resentment. If finances are really tight, ask her if she could pay you back $20 or $25 a week. Or just let it go. I would personally do the latter.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you guys can’t meet up, ask her to just go stick it in the bank. Between two of my bridesmaids, I’m owed about $1000. I just had to call them and be like “hey, I’m kinda outta money and still have stuff to pay for… can you pay me back?”. Kind of akward since it’s not like these people don’t know they owe you money!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Yikes. Good luck…. Just tell her you really need it now to pay for your wedding to close out vendor accounts.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The non-confrontational side of me would ask another Bridesmaid or Best Man to please remind her so that  I didn’t have to ask again.  lol

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