(Closed) i feel bad!! — found his email about purchasing a ring!!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
301 posts
Helper bee

@futuredrees: i think it’s good that you know he is actively putting in effort to buy you a ring! i’m totally excited for you

Post # 4
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You’re so bad! 🙂


You didn’t ruin it at all, but better stay away from that email from now on. It would be so sad if you did end up spoiling the surprise. If it were me, I would get him to change his password, just to keep me from doing it again. Maybe talk to him about how you read an article about password security and how “everyone chooses their pets name[or whatever he uses] and its super easy for spammers.”


I’m not above lying if it means the proposal stays a surprise!

Post # 6
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

So..Fiance accidentally sent me a text saying “What’s Jess’s ring size, I need to know.” It was SUPPOSED to go to my sister though. So I fantically called my sis and told her to pretend like she got it, blah, blah, blah.

Well she calls back and says he’s buying a PROMISE RING! I was devastated and couldn’t believe it. Later that evening, he went AWAL and I got even more curious. I checked his bank account and saw too large of a transaction for a promise ring.

I knew I was getting it and the wait killed me–you’re only hurting yourself right now. Lol. After he FINALLY proposed, I told him what I had done. We can joke it about it now and he says I have “trust issues” (jokingly).

STAY AWAY FROM THE EMAILS AND DON’T DROP ANY HINTS THAT YOU KNOW ANYTHING!! Guys work so hard on surprises and it will crush him if he knows you know something!

Post # 7
1295 posts
Bumble bee

Don’t say a word! Seriously – I know it’s addicting, but stay out of that email! You could mention something like “Jeez I haven’t changed my FB password in forever” and maybe he’ll get inspired to change his email one.

Post # 8
3306 posts
Sugar bee

I am very excited for you- I am glad you saw something positive!!!


Post # 10
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Does he know you can and do get into his e-mail? I know SO’s password and such and I know that there is a lot of info. regarding engagement plans but I don’t think it’s okay to snoop behind someone’s back. 


I signed onto SO’s account one time without him knowing and came clean about it right after. He was glad I was honest.


I’m no stranger to wanting engagement info (as you can see in my previous posts) but am I alone in thinking that the snooping isn’t ok? Especially if you’re not honest with him about it?

Post # 11
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

You were somewhat justified in that he was acting suspicious, but now that you know why (and that it wasn’t anything bad) you should STAY OUT. If he ever finds out you did that, he will probably be very angry.Plus, if you find out what the ring looks like, it’s going to be really hard to look surprised when he proposes. He’s going to know something’s up.

But like I said, just this once: not that bad. Enjoy knowing that you’ll be getting proposed to soon!

Post # 12
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

So my Fiance and my mom were e-mail back and forth about rings and such before Fiance bought mine. Apparently, an attachment got added at some point and so did a couple other people, one of which felt it necessary to forward it along to me without reading all of it. Needless to say, I knew about the ring long before I was supposed too. Fiance still has no idea.

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