Post # 1
I am under a different name to protect the innocent….namely me.
This has been eating away at me for the last 4 months. My Maid/Matron of Honor who is also my sister (9 yrs older-divorced), threw me a bacholerette party. She picked one of the activities that I had suggested which was great. I gave her a list of friends and she reached out to them but a lot couldnt make it. So, she took it upon herself to invite a bunch of HER friends who weren’t even invited to the wedding. Not to mention that while we were at our first destination (a 2 part party – some stayed, some left) she had the DJ wish her friend a happy bday while a good friend of mine was telling him that it was my night. OK, maybe being mad about that is petty BUT I only get this kind of night ONCE. She also spent most of the time on the phone texting her new boyfriend. Oh, did I mention my other sister (the oldest of us) who came and is a recovering alcoholic got wasted on the limo ride there and we had to have her picked up before we even ate dinner AND she started a fight with me in the restaurant.
My BFF got wasted and wound up having to sleep at my sisters house but not after 4 of my friends who were staying, were fighting with my sister that drunk bff could not come with us to the very expensive hotel cause she didnt pay for it, and didnt have money for it and we had part 2 of the night to continue with and my sister had AGREED to get those who were not staying, home. I STILL have not heard the end of that one.
Fights started brewing between those that shouldnt have even been there and my friends and my sister started fights with my friends.(no fists-just words).
The 2nd part of the night went way better and I am thankful for those that chipped in to surprise me with a swank hotel stay, a night out on the town (even if it is a bit fuzzy), and brunch in the am, but it doesnt come without its drama price. They, in essence, made up for what my sister(s) did to me that is still eating away at me.
To this day, I want to cry and last time my sister brought up my bff sleeping off her hangover on her couch AND the fight she got into with another friend, I blew up at her. Oh, and did I mention she was pissed that I didnt invite her boyfriend to the wedding? That she ‘had to suffer the whole time without him’? That MY invites went out before they were together? That I was thinking of her girls feelings, not so much hers?
Not to mention my husband is PISSED about how it all went down. I really just want to cry about it all. I feel so betrayed by her actions that it made me realize how selfish she really is.
RANT OVER. Thanks for listening (reading).
Post # 3
I am confused…who said your BFF couldn’t come to the hotel? Did your sister go? You guys all just took off and left your BFF on the couch? What kind of fights did your sister start? If your wedding date is right, this happened over 3 months ago. I think it’s time to move on. Drunken drama is a common hazard of a large group drinking large quantities of alcohol.
Post # 4
I’m so confused. I agree that its time to let it go. Why hold onto anger and resentment over a drunken night? You are married now and that’s the important thing. It can’t be “re-done”. I day move on. Go out for an awesome night with your actual friends and replace the bad memory with a good one 🙂
Post # 5
@Tatum: Sorry to confuse you. Yes, this has been eating at me for 4 months. There were 2 parts to the night. About 5 of us went on with the second half of the night while the others went home. My sister started fights with the friends that went with me for part 2 because she didnt want to deal with the drunk bff that she had agreed to deal with in the beginning. That started the fight with my other friends who were staying the whole night. The BFF had no plans of staying and yes, she shouldnt have gotten that drunk but when my sister started bitching about having to deal with her, I then made arrangements for bff to go to my house where my fiance was to sleep off her hangover but for some reason she went to my sisters. And it is beyond me why my sister STILL has to bring it up.
Post # 6
Uh, let it go. Move on already.
Post # 7
sometimes you just need to vent. hopefully typing it all out will make it easier for you to forget about what happened.
Post # 8
Sometimes we get disappointed in things and people … everyone’s human…. but you hung onto this during your wedding ?
It sounds like some druken college night out … get over it…. you don’t get a redo.
Post # 9
Wow, this is drama and a half. Limit the alcohol next time?
Post # 10
@Mrs-Mac: Yeah, sounds like a case of drunken drama. Definitely not worth still being upset about–if any sisters or friends try to bring it up in the future, you can just say something along the lines of, “Let’s not talk or think about that drama.”
And not to belittle it or anything, but your family and friends threw you what sounds like an expensive, planned-out party. That’s pretty sweet, even if some people acted inappropriate.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
It’s been months. I think you really need to let this go. It’s not worth it. And while you might be saying “it’s my night,” no one had to do anything for you at all. So you should just be happy they put the effort into what looks like it was an expensive night.
Also, who cares if the DJ says happy birthday to someone at your bachelorette party? That is ridiculous IMO that you are still upset about that
Post # 12
Women + Alcohol + Any Expectation of the night OTHER than drama and chaos = Disappointment.
Out of all the things a bride has to enjoy, and there are a lot of them, being sad over something like this is a total waste of time…take yourself out on the town any time you want…why do you have to be getting married to cut loose and get crazy?
Every so often, I call some friends, we fab it up and hit the town because, well, we’re us and that merits some drinks and dancing any day.
Post # 13
i kinda think you’re overreacting. it happened months ago and it’s just a silly party, you really need to let it go and move on. Clearly the issues with your sister, etc. are more than just what happened at the party and these should be adequately addressed of course, but just not within the context of it ruin your bachelorette. Just my 2cents…
Post # 14
@Nona99: “Women + Alcohol + Any Expectation of the night OTHER than drama and chaos = Disappointment.”
Uh, what? That’s a pretty sad view of women. I go out and drink with my girlfriends all of the time and we never have drama…because we’re adults…who respect each other.
If you constantly find yourself surrounded by drama, the problem is you.