I feel disappointed with my engagement ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Brace yourself! The replies on this thread will not be kind. Personally I’d be bummed too if I was expecting one thing but then received another. If he is unwilling to upgrade, and it is probably well past the return date, perhaps you could buy an enhancer to wrap around the center stone and make it look better?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think eloping is in order for you guys to save your sanity and relationship.

Everyone is unique with their ring preference. If you really have a problem with it and you don’t feel your being materialistic, tell your future husband of your ring desires. If anything you can upgrade perhaps in the future for an anniversary or some type of gift.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Perhaps it was all he could afford? Yes, we all want things in life, but I’d rather my future husband not put us in debt over a ring. Am I in love with my ring? Yes. Did I help pick it out? Yes. Is it “what I imagined” one day having? No. But it’s special to me and I know my SO is putting funds towards student loan payments and savings, which are much more important to me. Just a perspective.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

What I think is bad about this is not just that you are disappointed in the size but that you aren’t wearing it because he won’t upgrade it. At least that’s how it sounds?

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Did he say why he didn’t want to upgrade it? I understand feeling a little sad about the size… Society does that to us girls, tells us we have to have a big ole rock, but try and remember he gave that to you with his heart and that’s most important. Maybe you can upgrade it with your own money?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch

I’m sorry that you’re not in love with your ring.  But just think how this is making your FH feel.  He was SO excited to propose and give you this ring.  Sure, he may have known that it wasn’t as big as you wanted but for him, it’s more than a ring.  It’s a symbol of your commitment to one another.  Maybe someday down the road when you have more money, you can upgrade it later.  But for now, wear the ring with pride and know that all that matters is that you’re in love with this man who wanted to buy you this symbol of his love for YOU.  Sure, having something nice, big and sparkly is great.  But what’s more important is the meaning behind it and your future together.

As far as your Future Mother-In-Law… don’t get too upset about things she’s doing.  Either ignore her or like another poster said… elope.  All that matters is your and your FH right?

And please…. wear your ring.  No matter how small it is.  It’s a huge slap in the face to your FH that you won’t even wear it.  Like I said… someday maybe you can upgrade it to what you want when finances allow.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I understand that you are dissapointed, and honestly I would be a little too, but it is what the ring stands for that really counts and honestly I think it is very rude of you to put it back into the box and not even wear it…imagine how that must make him feel. He spent his time and money to pick out a nice ring for you to show you that he loves you and is commited to you and you wont even wear it. That probably really hurts him and you should not do something so hurtful to someone you love.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsJ2theZ:  I was thinking the same thing

Post # 12
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696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@copewedding:  haha darn you posted that as I was typing so mine says almost the exact same thing lol

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Like PP’s said, your best bet is to probably invest in an enhancer. They do amazing things! And if your Fiance doesn’t want to invest in an upgrade and you’re the one having an issue…an enhancer could really change the appearance of your ring. NOT that I think your size is “wrong,” but since you do, I’m just trying to offer a suggestion.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_6?url=search-alias%3Djewelry&field-keywords=ring+enhancer&sprefix=ring+e%2Cjewelry%2C233

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MapleCreekBride:  Couldn’t have said it better myself!

 

Seriously, wear the ring 🙂

Post # 15
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211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow. You won’t even wear it? That’s low.

ETA: If I was your Fiance, I would be devestated.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Too be honest if I was your fiance and you refused to wear the engagement ring I would not be getting married. With this being said maybe us girls can help. If you post a picture we can make some suggestions on ways of making your ring look cool (Im thinking stacking rings in different metals).

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