(Closed) I feel disappointed with my engagement ringposted 8 years ago in Rings
- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2018
You know what? You’re human. Don’t feel guilty for feeling disappointed. I know everyone keeps saying “it’s what it represents!” While that is true, it also prompted an unexpected reaction in you. You can’t help it that you were disappointed, and no amount of trying to force yourself to love the ring is going to make you do so; if anything, it will make you hyper-aware of the ring & probably make you feel worse. If I were you, I would be very involved in picking out the wedding band to accompany the ring. Show him what you want, go with him to look, etc. I’m doing the exact same thing. And by all means, if you decide to upgrade it in the future, that’s what you will do. It is both just a piece of jewelry and a symbol of your fiancé’s affection for you. They aren’t mutually exclusive. I’d hint at upgrading in the future (even just selling the old diamond & putting the $ toward a .50 carat one in the same setting you already have). Above all, I’m sure he wants you to be happy. I would, however, wait until you’re married to start talking about an upgrade, since it’s already been 8 months. It’s a touchy subject, but you want to feel content. There’s nothing wrong with that. Also, try to keep the issue of the irritating future mother-in-law separate from the disappointment with the ring. Otherwise you’ll start to see little negative things start snowballing & overtaking your wedding, which you’d likely regret in the future. Best of luck! You’ll make the decision that’s right for you. 🙂
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