(Closed) I Feel Foolish

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Ahhhh… don’t we all feel like fools sometimes? Try not to beat yourself up over this. It really is horrible what they did to you, i dont like that at all. I’ve done some really stupid things over the course of my wedding plannin, chalk it up to “bride brain” you have a lot going on and these people were friendly to you! What were you supposed to think? ‘These people were lovely to me! they must hate me very much” No, they lef you on in a friend sense and it was really messed up. I’m sure you’re a lovely person and there are far better people to fill those seats with!

Post # 3
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2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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MRSD1460:  It is what it is- people are phony! I wouldn’t have invited anyone I wasn’t close to, but they were clearly being passive aggressive by pretending like they would come and then both immediately deleting you after the fact. I think their actions prove they dont wish to have any communication with you. I would forget them and definitely not bother reaching out or inviting them to anything going forward.

Post # 4
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2695 posts
Sugar bee

Your friend who spilled the beans is messy, messy, messy. You guys had a nice mutually phony respect for each other going on (remember you hadn’t originally invited them so you must not really be crazy about them or indifferent to them). Don’t sweat the small stuff. Invite them since you already verbally extended yourself. You’ll be too busy to notice if they come or not and you don’t love them enough for them to make an impact on your day, one way or another.

Post # 5
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2730 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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MRSD1460:  Wow, that’s a terrible feeling. I don’t know why your mutual friend would tell you something like that. Don’t feel foolish… this couple are the foolish ones for continuing to go on vacation and hang out with you if they “don’t like you” yet they don’t have the balls to tell  you the truth. I mean, saying you were accidentally deleted off both their facebooks? Obviously it’s not a mistake and why unfriend you if they are going to lie about it and continue to pretend to be friends with you? They are the juvenille foolish ones and you shouldn’t be offended by people like that not liking you. You’re probably dodging a bullet. But, did this mutual friend give an explination as to why they don’t like you? That’s just random. If they really don’t like you, you don’t have to worry about them coming to your wedding. I know it stings but do your best to forget about them.

Post # 6
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1651 posts
Bumble bee

Oh well, so dont invite them. If you run into them again and they ask why they werent invited tell them 

you had to do some clean up. 

Post # 7
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2570 posts
Sugar bee

Have you sent them anything on paper about your wedding? If not I would just avoid talking to them or mention anything wedding from now on, they probably will get the hint and not come. Your not exactly uninviting them your just not giving them the when and where.

Post # 8
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4766 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People are so freakin strange.  They’ll happily vacation, drink, and accept wedding invitations all while hating you?  I’m sorry I think you’re calling the wrong person foolish and I think foolish is much to tame.  

Just ignore them from now on. I assume you did not send them a physical invite.  It’d be odd if they actually showed up, odd and freakin hilarious.  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

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MRSD1460:  then I wouldn’t send them anything and forget this whole situation happened. People who act like that are the worse kind of rude IMO nice to your face and hateful behind your back, Grow up!

Post # 11
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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MRSD1460:  Clean them up like 
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buzzinbee: said. That’s the best advice anyone can give you! +a jillion imaginary points to buzzinbee!!!

Post # 12
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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buzzinbee:  This!! 

Post # 13
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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MRSD1460:  Wow, that’s really shady. I would uninvite them. It might be childish, but I am dead serious. Make up an excuse (like they did when you asked about the Facebook friendships) and move on with your wedding planning. Even though you probably wouldn’t notice them there (if they were to show up), the last thing you want at your wedding is people that don’t like you. You owe them nothing, and they need to get over themselves! This is your big day and they shouldn’t be a part of it. *SNAP* 😉 haha

Post # 14
Member
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Don’t feel foolish! It’s always best to take the high road. I always pretend I don’t know people don’t like me and kill them with kindness. It doesn’t actually matter that you didn’t know how they felt. You are a kind person and you extended the offer. They are the miserable jerks. Rock on and forget about them. Definitely DO NOT let them ruin your wedding excitement. 

Post # 15
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

These people are cowards. They’re friendly when encountered face to face or in a group environment, but act two faced behind your back. Then after verbally accepting your invite with enthusiasm but no sincerity, they decide to ghost you on facebook and when asked about it can’t even grow a pair and own it but give you the lamest of lame excuses that it was accidental (for both of them ffs). IMO you did nothing wrong and shouldn’t feel foolish, your only ‘crime’ was mistaking two faced false friends as decent people, that’s on them not you. 

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