I feel hideous in my wedding video and pictures what do I do?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Pictures? I am sure you look great!!!! Individuals tend to be over critical of themselves. Also, stop looking at them and take a break. If you keep glancing them you’re more likely to nitpick.

i totally understand how you feel though- my fi is extremely photogenic!!!

Post # 4
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

melobean :  wut, I was expecting some hideous photo! We’re *all* our own worse critics. You look radiant! Your skin is peaches and cream flawless too! 

Post # 5
3063 posts
Sugar bee

melobean :  All I see is an elegant and classic bride with flawless skin, and beautiful eyes. That’s what your pictures show. 

Post # 6
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

melobean :  Girl you look great! I hope I look as beautiful as you on my wedding day and fingers crossed for clear flawless skin like you had!!! 

Post # 8
312 posts
Helper bee

I think you look happy and gorgeous!!!

Post # 9
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

You look beautiful!! Looking at my wedding pics, I knew I didn’t look perfect but the memories of being SO happy made me feel better. Love your bouquet by the way!

Post # 10
179 posts
Blushing bee

Is that the worst you could do? I’ll say the lighting may not have been the best in the church (I presume), but YOU look lovely!

Post # 11
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

melobean :  I had the same reaction when I saw my engagement photos.  I cried for a good hour over them.  I felt so fat and like there was a magnifying glass on all my imperfections.  But I showed them to my Fiance, and he was so happy with how I looked!  and then I showed them around more, and people kept ooohing and awwwing over them.  I picked my tope 3 to use for the website and Save-The-Date Cards.  Loads of unprompted compliments.  I realized it was my own insecurity.  

You look great in those pictures!  And guess what?  For most of history, your body type was considered the highest standard of beauty.  Very few people people have fit the conventional standard of beuty, and it always changes.  

I am going to paraphrase a quote from the great Margaret Cho “If you have such a limited view of beauty, then I feel bad for you, because you must not see much beauty in the world”.  So I have a challenge for you.  Every day, when you look in the mirror, find one thing you love about your body.  Repeat that to yourself 10 times.  Try to pick something different every day.   That helped me get over my feeling that my Fiance was too good looking for me. 

We are our own worst critic.  You look like a beautiful bride.  I’m sure, in a month or two, you will appreciate them more.  You’ll definitely think you look great when you’re an old lady.  I look back at pictures from us that mortified me at the time, but then, a few years go by and I realize I looked miles better than I thought I did at the time!

Post # 12
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

You look gorgeous! Your makeup and dress are flawless and you look so happy, I think the best part of the photo is that your joy shines through.

Congrats, bee! 

Post # 14
11614 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Bee. You have a beautiful face with great bone structure and that first shot is to die for. 

the second shot is not lit, and you can barely see you. It’s not a realistic impression of how you look to others. Video is even harsher than photography and so people -all people- look less than their best unless it is lit well. This has nothing to do with weight and everything to do with bad lighting conditions.  

All of the people you are comparing yourself to have been lit by professional lighting experts and styled and posed and photoshopped. 

look your face. High cheekbones, good nose, pretty eyes, perfect lips, great chin. 

You were a beautiful bride! 


Post # 15
777 posts
Busy bee

You must be joking! You look gorgeous! Your smile is just amazing! 

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