I feel hideous in my wedding video and pictures what do I do?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

melobean :  Sending you some big internet hugs.  I’m glad I could help.

Post # 18
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think you look really pretty 😊

Post # 19
9736 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Fellow plus size bride here! I totally understand your struggle. It’s hard to not think we would look so much better thinner but the truth is you don’t have to be thin to be beautiful and you DO look beautiful in those pictures!

We are our own worst critics and it can be difficult to get out of that mindset but it’s so important to remember that weight isn’t everything and that you are allowed to feel beautiful and think positive things about yourself at any weight.

Post # 20
4549 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If I walked past you i would think you a classic beauty! I wish you could see yourself as I do.

Post # 21
637 posts
Busy bee

Bee, you look gorgeous! I’d never have a negative thought about those photos even if I saw them without reading your post. I know how it feels to not look the way you used to look, and I know we are waaaaay harder on ourselves and see things that literally no one else sees. You seriously look great!!! 

Post # 22
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You look gorgeous! As PPs have said, we are always our own worse critics but you genuinely look lovely. Your husband is a lucky man!

Post # 23
405 posts
Helper bee

melobean :  You look stunning! You are glowing and look like a happy, beautiful bride. I also wanted to compliment your style as I love your bouquet, dress, and veil. Internet hugs! 

Post # 24
751 posts
Busy bee

You look amazing! I would kill for your bone structure! And your eyes

(Well, not actually kill but you get the drift!)

Post # 25
522 posts
Busy bee

As others have said you look like a beautiful classic bride ❤️ I totally can relate to how you feel though and always get a shock every time I see a photo of myself these days. I was much heavier for my 2nd marriage than 1st. Saying that however I didn’t like many photos of myself from my first wedding, even though I was very slim and young. We are our own harshest critics ( apart from our mums 😜 ). If you are not happy with your body maybe use this as motivation to make changes, but I think we all need to be kinder to ourselves x Congratulations on your marriage!

Post # 26
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

melobean :  you can still be beautiful over 200 lbs, and you ARE. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, you look lovely!

Post # 27
8740 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

melobean :  We are our own worst enamies. I HATE photos of myself. It’s my sisters wedding in 10 days and mine next year and I am dreading the photos already. But that said, you look gorgeous. I am sorry you feel that way though. It is hard to shake even when people say you look great/ your SO loves you the way you are etc. 

Post # 28
1357 posts
Bumble bee

OP, I know what it feels like to hate yourself for not being thin and to hurt your body as a result. It’s SO HARD for us women to like ourselves when we’re not thin. So, so hard. As a woman who struggles and has struggled immensely with her weight, my wish for you is that you can see just how pretty you are, “big” arms or not. I DON’T think you look bad in your photos. I DON’T think you are ugly. I think you are very pretty, and I think your husband agrees with me. 

I am sorry–I am SO sorry–that you have to feel so bad about your body. God, do we all know that feeling or what. It is one of the most destructive we women have the burden of shouldering.

But I do hope that you will not only see how pretty you are–I hope that you will see that being pretty or chubby or bony or stumpy or lanky or lithe will NEVER dictate your worth as a woman, as a person. I know that thinking thus is likely an impossible task… but let’s try. We women have gone through enough, so let’s try. 

All my best, Bee, and congratulations on your nuptials. 

Post # 29
11 posts
  • Wedding: January 2019

I looked at the two pictures and thought, “Wow, she has beautiful skin, and she looks happy, friendly, and confident on her wedding day!” Now, I’m just a stranger– I don’t know you in person. I guarantee you your family and friends who watch this video will be seeing the beautiful, kind woman they know and love, they won’t be evaluating you by ridiculous beauty standards! 


I know how you feel as I often hate how I look in pictures and video. Seriously, though, nobody else is thinking what you’re thinking. We judge ourselves by our bloopers and we judge other by their highlights! 

Post # 30
1555 posts
Bumble bee

Your hubby is right, you are beautiful!

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