I feel hideous in my wedding video and pictures what do I do?

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

you are beautiful! Confidence is beautiful too. Feel good, look good 🙂 

Post # 47
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Busy bee

I think you really look beautiful. If that wasn’t your face on the picture but your friends face, would you think they were fat, ugly, unphotogenic etc? No, you’d think they look like a genuinely beautiful bride. We really are our own worst critics (I get it, I’m my worst critic too… as I sit here and eat a bag of Doritos no less lmao)

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2006

what?!!! girl, you look gorgeous.

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2018

melobean :  I can sympathize with this, although not from wedding pictures. My fiance’s dad loves taking pictures when we go on family trips with his very nice camera. It waasn’t until I saw those pictures that I saw what I “truly” looked like – because they are more candid photos and not posed straight-on photos. They truly devasted me, which sounds really dramatic, but it is so disorienting when you don’t recognize yourself! I had put on about 20 lbs of weight and felt generally good about myself, until I saw what I looked like. From my perspective, you are beautiful and your husband probably does not see the weight like you do. But, if from your perspective you do not recognize yourself or do not feel happy, you should take action on it and work toward what you picture yourself to be. This truly helped me attain my goals and put the negative thoughts into a positive action. I have been able to reduce by body fat % and increase my overall health. I tried not to look at it as a skinny/fat thing, but as a wellness concern. I wanted to do what was right for me and now I feel really solid about the alignment between who I see myself to be and who others see. 

TL;DR: You are beautiful. If you want to change, then change. But also find a way to love yourself and be kind to yourself at any stage of your life. 

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You are SO BEAUTIFUL! You look radiant and stunning! You deserve all good things! I love your dress too💕

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Being thin has NOTHING TO DO WITH BEAUTY!!!

I think u look stunning u have a very beautiful face. U look like u could be on the cover of a wedding magazine

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You’re very pretty! I see no double-chin or any of the other problems you are describing. Like okay, you are not a size 0 but you have a nice shape and a flattering dress, your makeup is flawless and you have pretty hair. 

Have you thought about counseling to work on your self-esteem issues? 

Post # 53
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Helper bee

melobean :  you are beautiful, and you look radiant. 

Your husband is not undeserving of you, that’s just silly. Don’t ruin your wedding day and sharing your wedding photos with your hubby by badmouthing yourself like this! He loves you…he loves you exactly as you are in those photos. <3

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