(Closed) I feel hijacked by a pregnant friend

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2972 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I think you are really overreacting if all the girl did was take that photo.

Post # 4
11890 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Ari214:  I understand how you feel but I think you’re being a little oversensitive.  Your friend(s) probably shouldn’t have done that, but you can’t change it so it is what it is.

Post # 5
8009 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

you should have moved your way to the center of the group for the photo.

Post # 7
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@Ari214:  I get it.  I’ve never been one to stick up for myself.  If that happened at a party that was thrown for me, I probably still wouldn’t have thrown myself into the middle.  I sometimes expect that people should want to do things like that on their own – that they would want to have me in the middle of the picture taken at a party thrown for me (assuming that’s what this was).  But they don’t.  And I end up feeling really sad about it later.  It really comes down to the fact that I need to grow a spine and stop feeling sorry for myself.  But I really sympathize.  


Post # 8
1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ari214:  Im sorry that happened. I can see how you feel that way. I would have asked for another photo.

If she is self centered, she did that on purpose.

Have your MOH tackle her at the wedding if she does that agian LOL

Post # 10
2534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

So here’s a rhetorical question… are you upset because you feel like she nabbed your attention, or are you upset because you didn’t stand up for yourself?
(I tend to ask myself this when I feel the same way you do, and the answer is almost always the latter)

Consider it a lesson learned and understand that there may have been more than one reason for people to be excited at your shower, even if it wasn’t 100% about you. It’s just the way that life goes sometimes.

Next time I vote you call out for another shot and relocate yourself right up in the middle of teh picture. Block the belly if it makes you feel better! 😀

Post # 11
2909 posts
Sugar bee

At her baby shower, you should get in the middle of the picture and hold out your hand to show off your ring! Revenge!

Post # 12
12259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t blame her. Here’s why.

I was at a FUNERAL recently, and people kept touching my belly and asking about the baby… IN FRONT OF THE WIDOW. Thankfully, she loves babies and wanted a feel, too!

Because I was DYING inside that people were giving my belly attention instead of the body/widow!

Post # 13
3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ari214:  my SIL announced her pregnancy at my engagement party. I have no idea why she chose to do that, but anyone i have told said it was incredibly rude and self centered of her. But she has displayed this behaviour time and time again. So you just have to accept that some people are like that.  I have no doubt some of the other guests were wondering what the hell she was doing.  

So just smile and move on.  People with no tact shoot themselves in the foot eventually. : )

Post # 14
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@MRSsrm85:  I lol’d!

Post # 16
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MRSsrm85:  Lol. Yes!

Is she typically a self-centered person? If so, this shouldn’t come as a shock. I do think you are being a little too senstive about it, but I also think that was kind of dumb of her to do. It sounds like it was a cute, silly photo, so perhaps the friend that did the belly thing was just trying to fit in for the pic.

I woud try not to let it bother me.

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