Post # 1
I’ve been training for a job as a carer for kids who have too many behaviors to be in a foster home. These kids have been severely abused and have so many issues that they just can’t function normally in life so they live in houses where carers come in an out on shifts to take care of them. I really want to help these kids but I honestly don’t think I can do that job. They can get really violent and are extremely unpredictable and I just don’t feel safe. I feel bad not doing it though because these kids really, really do need help. I’m getting really emotional about this and wish I was the kind of person who could do the job.
Post # 3
You are not a bad person, some people are meant for those jobs and some are not. I wouldn’t give it a second thought
Post # 4
Please, don’t feel like a bad person! Feel accomplished with the fact that you gave such a honorable mission a try. As someone who works as a teacher and therapist for students with autism and behavioral challenges, I have a good deal of experience working through severe agression and seemingly dangerous scenarios. That being said, I’ll be the first to admit that I was actually quite terrified when I first started out in my career. Having to restrain children to keep them safe from bodily harm, and dealing with various instances of physical assault was quite a shock, initially. However, with time, reassurance, patience, and education, I was able to overcome many of my fears. Working for a solid, supportive organization that can properly train you in coping tactics and safety procedures to keep yourself out of harm’s way is a must.
However, this line of work is not for everyone. Being someone who “can” do this kind of job doesn’t automatically make me a saint. An inability to deal with what is actually a very stressful, emotionally draining job doesn’t make you weak in the slightest, my dear! Negative reaction and attention are both huge reinforcers for kids with emotional/behavorial challenges, and they tend to feed on your fears, lemme tell you. If you are genuinely afraid and don’t feel like that feeling will subsibe, it’s totally okay to bow out. There are other ways to reach out and assist these kids through advocacy and public policy.
Good luck to you!
Post # 5
So I went to talk to the man who runs the organization and told him how I felt and he gave me a job helping the psychologists create behavior support plans and functional behavior assessments for the children!! It turns out that he wasn’t aware of my degree in special education and said he would have never stuck me in the position of a carer if he knew how much better suited I was to be creating plans!! I am so happy that I still get to be a part of this organization.. thanks for your support, ladies!
Post # 6
Awesome news, congrats. Creating behavior plans is actually really darn fun! 🙂
Post # 7
Congratulations on the new job position! So glad that you get to serve like you’d hoped and utilize your degree.
Post # 8
I went through (far too many years) of school to work with children with Autism. I love working when them, figuring out how to help, and seeing them succeed. I’ve had great experiences, but I’ve also been worn dry. I only worked in the industry for 6 months before I realized I would come home and cry and vent daily. I was losing sleep in Sundays because I dreaded Mondays.
Social work (I find especially with children) is easily taken home with you. You pour your heart and soul into your job, you get emotional, you get attached, and unfortunately you’re dealing in high stress situations. I’d beat myself up for not helping enough, for not being sympathetic enough…man you name it. I am a terribly compassionate, and emotional person and thats why I was good, no GREAT at what I did, but I quickly found this love destroying the rest of my life.
I decided to get out of the hands on work and get into research. I still get to help, but behind the scenes where I can keep myself & emotions safe.