- 7 years ago
TBO all this talk about not expecting anything in return is silly. Of course you expect something in return. You’re in a relationship, it’s ALL ABOUT giving and receiving. Material things DO matter (not necessarily the cost though) no matter how big or small they are. If they didn’t, you wouldn’t ever buy anything that wasn’t a necessity of life (biological life I mean, as in food, water, shelter). I would be so damn hurt if my man did what yours is doing. It doesn’t matter what his opinion on gift giving is – it’s something that makes you happy so he should put in at least a bit of effort for that reason alone.
I suggest havng another chat with him and make it very very clear that while you might come across as materialistic (there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!!!!! people like things!!!!), you do want gifts every now and then. I had that talk with my fiance a few months back, and admitted that I do like getting gifts and they make me happy – he has been more aware of this since then and makes an effort in that regard. Not saying I expect a gift every day, or even every month, but a little something every now and then to let me know I was in his thoughts and he wanted to do something to make me happy in that way.