(Closed) I feel like a brat…disappointed.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Ceyx54:  Yes, your expectations are wack. ๐Ÿ™‚ But hey, it’s the moment every girl holds their breath for, right? You’re allowed to be disappointed.  Just keep in mind that  at this point, what’s really going to surprise you?  You know the proposal is coming.  If he proposes while you guys are having an ordinary moment eating breakfast or something, you might think “oh that’s it, I wanted something grand”  If he plans something elaborate, you will know something is up b/c of a trip or fancy restaurant that he suggests and you won’t be surprised then anyway.  I say relax and enjoy it when it happens and cut him some slack.  It’s hard to surprise a girl who’s ready to be surprised!

Post # 4
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No worries about feeling that way! My engagement was a total shock to me, but it didn’t go as he planned and it was definitely not a fairytale engagement– he had been planning on the exact day, but he got so nervous that he did it immediately in the morning while I was getting ready for work!!

No matter what he has planned, he is doing this because he *really* wants to! He’s excited/nervous.  Keep us posted! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Ceyx54:  Give him a chance. You are already feeling disappointed in anticipation and he hasn’t disappointed you or done anything wrong yet. FYI, some women would be very unhappy with a public proposal. Yes, your friend’s Fiance put a lot of thought into the proposal bit some women would have hated it.

Post # 8
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Ceyx54:  A lot of guys might not want to take the risk of pissing off the woman with a public proposal (especially if he is not 100% sure of the answer) and you really can’t go wrong with a private one.

Post # 9
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

you haven’t even given him a chance yet. You can’t be disapoointed when you don’t even knwo what he has planned.

Sorry but public elaborate propals are not my thing and I think you’re setting yourself up for disappointed if you set your expectations that high. Just beacuse he doesn’t do some public elaborate proposal doesn’t mean he didn’t put any thought or effort into it.

You need to put things into perspective – do you want a great proposal or a marriage? Marriage isn’t about the ring, the propsal, the wedding, etc.

Post # 11
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196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You tell him you don’t want to see the proposal coming, then later in the month he asks you to go to a museum and he’s ruining it for you? He probably thinks this would be an adorable suprise for you, and a good story to tell your friends you got engaged where you had a first date. You’re being quite rude about it I think, he’s putting the effort in. I hope whatever way he proposes, you find that special and sincere factor in it!

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