Post # 17
My husband wanted a boy so bad and I really wanted a girl. When we found out we were having a girl I felt so guilty that I got what I wanted and he didn’t. Honestly though, our daughter is 12 weeks old and neither of us ever think about wishing she was a boy at first.
Post # 18
Don’t feel bad. I think it’s natural to have gender preferenced. My dad wanted only girls and was admittedly disappointed when my brother was born, (before ultrasounds). But I think he got over it in like 2 seconds.
Post # 19
Don’t feel bad. This is SUCH a normal feeling.
I wanted a girl so badly that I was really afraid for the 20week scan. I knew that if it was a boy, I would be so dissapointed. I felt bad about wanting it SO badly.
I think this is just another case of “many people feel like this but people are often not really honest about these feelings”
SO many of us have felt this exact same way and it does NOT make you a bad mother.
Post # 20
Haha, I always tell about our family friends who had two girls and tried one more time for a boy, and got TWIN girls. Gave up, got snipped, got it REVERSED to try again for a boy, and got a girl again. Sixth try they got the boy.
I think it’s totally natural to have a preference, or at least a preconceived notion of what your family might look like that’s hard to let go of. It doesn’t make you a bad mom!
Post # 21
We aren’t TTC yet but we both SOOOOOO want a boy but I think we are jinxing oursleves LOL. No matter what we will be happy either way. But can’t pretend we don’t have a preference.
Post # 22
@SapphireSun: Haha, that reminds me of some of our family friends. Boy, boy…give it one more try, and they get boy/boy/girl! Triplets! At least that girl squeaked in there, because I’m sure they were done!
We’re not TTC yet, but Mr.ND and I both would like a girl first, but I’m sure we’ll be excited for whatever we get when it gets to that point.
Post # 23
My SO and I don’t want kids but if we did happen to have one, he said he wanted a girl and I said I wanted a boy. So I would feel horrible if it came out either way. Either he would be disappointed or I would. But when you first see your new baby, you are going to love him or her no matter what. You two will know you created him or her TOGETHER and that is what will matter most.
Post # 24
Thanks ladies :):) I do feel a little better. I am hopeful we are having a boy. I feel it is only because this pregnancy is completey opposite of my girls. I never had one day of feeling bad with them. I felt great. This one, ugh! There were days that I couldn’t think of eating or I would feel like heeving. I guess the biggest reason for hoping and praying for a boy is mainly because of hubby. I know he can do all the sports things and stuff with a girl, and he does with my girls, but I want so badly for him to have that father/son relationship he never got to experience. I am very close to my parents and so is my brother. Hubby never got that. The only reason he got to play sports in school was because of his grandparents. His own parents were never around. It’s still like that today. His brother is a year younger and has a better relationship with their parents than hubby. Hubby went to live with his grandparents when he was 8 because his parents were just never around. It still hurts hubby alot and I try to help him get past it. His brother is mad at him because he feels hubby got a better and easier life than he did. I remind hubby all the time that if his brother should be mad at anyone, it should be their parents not hubby. Their parents will go a month or more without calling hubby if he doesn’t call them. It just makes my heart hurt for him. He is such a caring guy and just wants that relationship with his parents and for them to love him but it will never happen. So I guess we will see around August 19th what we are having 🙂
Post # 25
I think you’re just admitting what a lot of pregnant women think privately. I was thrilled when I found out about our son – I knew my husband wanted a boy and I always wanted an older brother.
I don’t think it in any way means you’re a bad person, I think desiring a certain gender in a certain order is just kind of an “in an ideal world” thing, because at the end of the day we’re just happy to have a healthy baby.
Post # 26
This is a completely normal reaction. Just because you were sad when you found out doesnt mean that you dont love your girls and wont love this one. Its raw emotion that came out and thats okay!! You are NOT a horrible person. Fiance was very sad that we had a boy he wanted a girl for some reason.. badly. He of course is fine now. It will work out perfectly.
Post # 27
@organizedbride11: We haven’t found out what this one is yet 🙂 We find out next month. We had an ultrasound at 13 weeks and the tech was around the booty area and baby had it’s legs spread wide open and you could definitely see a turtle there. I am hoping it stays there and doesn’t fall off before our 20 week scan next month.
I have been looking at girl nurseries and OMG!! They have so much more cooler stuff now than when my girls were born!
Post # 28
Don’t feel bad. My husband said he would be disappointed with a girl and then later that night apologized to me over and over. I told him not to worry about it. I thought it was normal especially him being a guy. Me, I didn’t care either way but he is getting his boy 🙂
Post # 29
We are having the girl that we both wanted, but I would honestly have been disappointed if it had turned out to be a boy. You can’t help your feelings.
Post # 30
90% of the world wants a boy first. its a lot of pressure. Its good chances it will be a boy if the ultrasound tech said it looks like it.