(Closed) I feel like a horrible pet mom. Help!

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

well that just plain out sucks!.. Im with you on the..you get them.. you keep them for life…but things do come up..and sometimes sacrifices have to be made.. (or need to be) you wouldn’t be willing to sneak the hedgies to your new place?.. (I know shame on me for even mentioning it)… also with the turtles.. if they are a financial strain.. then do what you have to.. then find them a home… you aren’t abandining them.. you are finding them a home..same with the hedges.. if you arent willing to go against the law ..then find them a home.. things happen in life.. and even though we treat them like they are our kids… they arent.. you cant walk into a department store with a turtle or hedgie… but you can a kid…  I had to find a home for my dog once ..because we are always on the go.. our dog went many places with us..but when we found out he had seizures MAJOR ones.. and that us taking him everywhere we could was making him worse.. and leaving him home wasnt an option because he had to take his medicine at a certain time every few hours.. and we were gone all the time.. so we found an older lady that wanted him and we payed for a year of the medication.. although she didnt want the money.. we insisted.. last update from her was a few years ago.. I think I might go find her email and see how hes doing.. wow.. sorry ..I went off on my on tangent.. but you get the idea.. we do what we have to.. because we love them..not because we are abandoning them

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

To start, I totally understand where you are coming from.  I would lose sleep over this situation too, if I were in your shoes.  We become attached to animals, even when they cost a lot and we don’t really have time for them anymore.  Yes, it would be ideal to adopt them for life, but circumstances change and we can’t always make guarantees.

I am sure that once you see how many people would eagerly take in your pets, you will feel a lot better.  Of course it will be difficult, but I think that the move is worth it and you will be able to come to terms with your decision soon enough.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

As much as you love your pets, you have to do what’s best for them, and sometimes, as much as it hurts, that means letting them go to someone who can take care of them better.  When I still lived with my parents, we had two dogs, and my mom, who was home all day, walked them all of the time.  After she passed away, their walk schedule greatly decreased, because my father and I were both working full-time.  It wasn’t fair at all to them.  We finally made the heartbreaking decision that we had to give them to a home that could take care of them much better than we could.  It was really hard, but ultimately, we felt better knowing that they were probably much happier.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Pets are also forever for me. I had never conceived of re-homing any of my pets until I had to put their best interests before my own.

I also had two red eared sliders whom I adored and did everything for. When I got them at about the size of a half dollar, one had a severe infection and I have to give him antibiotic injections into his tiny little leg twice a day. This was while I was in college so all my spending money went to keeping their tank pristine, giving him supplements and medicating him. He got better and the two of them lived happily in my steadily growing tank.

We had a custom aquarium for them. Top of the line reptile heating and UV lights. A filter large enough to clean a 2000 gallon pond.  Then we added another filter. It got to a point that no matter how many times I cleaned their tank or how efficient their equipment was, they were not happy in an aquarium.

I contacted the CA Tortoise and Turtle club and with a heavy heart had them rehomed to a turtle sanctuary. Unfortunately, I don’t get to visit my babies since the sanctuary is private to prevent people from dumping animals or introducing disease. I miss them but am thrilled that they’re happy and healthy in their new, much more appropriate, home.

Now for your Hedgehogs. While I would never advise anyone to do anything illegal, I do know of a number of people who keep hedgehogs quite happily in CA. Two of them live in Los Angeles and San Francisco ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally understand on the turtles! We bought two slider turtles a few years ago on a trip to FL. I’d always wanted a turtle. I never realized how much work they were! They are sooooo dirty! I’d clean their water and it would be gross in a few days. The heaters never kept their water warm enough, the filters never seemed to work. When we moved last January I knew there was no way we could take them with us. I didn’t know what to do. I was trying to find a turtle rescue because I heard you couldn’t put them in the wild if they were domesticated. Luckily my mom happened to mention it at work and a lady there said her adult son loved turtles and would take them. I was so happy to find them a home.

That really stinks about the hedgehogs! Why are they illegal?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I raise chicken illegally in my city. I read a post from someone on a backyard chicken board that they wanted to get chickens but they illegal in their city so they went to their councilman and wrote letters and that in a VERY LONG process got permits that let them keep the chicks but the councilman even told them that they should have just got the chickens. I tell you this because perhaps if you REALLY try, you can get permission to have them in cali legally. Me? I’d prolly smuggle mine in ๐Ÿ™‚ as for your turtles I dont know what to say. I once paid $5,000 for a kitten that was 5 months or so and he didn’t make it and i ended up having to put him  down. So I understand spending money and resources on an animal. I hope you find a safe happy home for everyone.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say you just bring them. Maybe you ‘don’t know’ they’re illegal. I mean, I would never think something like that would be illegal. Like you said, there’s no border patrol when you drive into Cali. lol. Of course, then you do have to worry if someone did find out and they try to take them from you, you wouldn’t know where they’d end up. Hmmm…that just stinks! I’d hate to leave my pets!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

I seem to remember a stop along the NV/CA border to check for plants or something.  Of course, it’s been years since I drove from LA to LV, so that may have changed.

I’m stunned that something that’s legal in TX is illegal in CA.  You’d think it’d be the other way around!  I feel like anything goes in San Fran.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I’m so sorry – what a horrible decision to make. We don’t have hedgies here, so I can’t offer any advice on that, but just make sure that if you DO re-home the babies, to take some time and do a good vetting first, to make sure they’re the right fit for your pets. It really sucks that you’re in that position! ๐Ÿ™

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

what if momma heggie and poppa heggie homed your heggies for a while and then you can drive for a visit and pick them up? Or you can send them to me and I will take care of them ๐Ÿ™‚  They’re illgeal in pa also but I have allways wanted one lol

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