- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
A couple of weeks ago, my Maid/Matron of Honor asked me for my Wedding Guest List. A week after that, she asked me for my Registry Information. I assumed she was planning my Shower (which I know nothing about).
Last week, she texted me asking, “Is everyone who’s invited to the wedding invited to the shower?”
I wasn’t sure if she meant, “Is there anyone you don’t want to be invited to the shower?” or “Am I supposed to invite everyone to the Shower that’s invited to the Wedding?”
In my area, it’s customary to invite all of the females who are invited to the wedding to the Shower. So, I responded (without really thinking), “Usually, all the females are invited to the Shower that are invited to the Wedding.”
This would be a list of 67 women to invite. Of that number, I think 30 of them would want and actually be able to come based on their location/relationship with me.
This morning, she mentioned something about having to change venues for the Shower. I felt awful – I realized that maybe she had a different idea in terms of throwing me a shower and I might have screwed it up by suggesting that all these women needed to be invited.
When I really stopped and thought about it, it’s a LOT of money. I mean, of course it is, but I just didn’t think about it for some reason until I realized she’s having to search for a VENUE to hold the Shower in.
I wrote her an email just now telling her to please let me help. I asked her to tell me how many people her original venue held and I can edit the list to only invite that many women. I don’t need to invite my west coast coworkers to a Shower on the East Coast.
I don’t even know if my mother or FI’s mother are helping with the Shower. I just feel so awful. She’d never complain to me or anything about it, for fear of stressing me out. And it’s supposed to be a surprise.
Ugh, anyone else deal with something like this? What can I do?