Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is notoriously blunt and rarely filters anything that pops in her head. This week I went dress shopping and sent her a picture in a gown that I think may be the one and it is also my mom’s favorite.
When we talked on the phone later, she said it looked “too traditional” and reminded her of a quinceanera dress. Mind you, she has never been to a single quinceanera and when I told her I didn’t think it looked anything like a quinceanera dress, she laughed it off and said, “Well, I don’t know what a quinceanera dress looks like, it’s just a LOT of lace.” She then proceeded to tell me that her friend (that I do not know in any way) agreed and disliked the dress. This is the second time she’s said something that bothered me – the first time I showed her dresses one of her responses was literally the word, “Vomit.”
Later on, I cried about her comment. I felt like a silly fool for letting such a little thing get to me but jeez, why tell me someone else dissed the dress when I don’t even know them and why tell me it looks like a quinceanera dress when you yourself have no idea what that means?
I know I’m being WAY too sensitive – I just wanted to vent a little and know if anyone else was a little sensitive during the dress search…
For reference, here’s a pic of me in the dress:
Post # 3
I think you Maid/Matron of Honor is crazy.
Your dress looks beautiful on you 🙂
Post # 4
Its not silly, I probably would have done the same thing (cried, not make the comment) but I think moving forward she needs removing, you need to get the dress that makes you happy, not your Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 5
That dress is stunning, please get it! You look AMAZING.
And f*ck what she said. She was probably having a bad day since she was hanging out with that friend who is obviously a miserable louse!
Post # 6
dump her as your Maid/Matron of Honor and get the dress. more drama is the last thing you need when planning a wedding!
Post # 7
That dress looks like it was made for you. It is gorgeous.
Your MOH’s comment would’ve upset me, too. I’m sure your Maid/Matron of Honor is a great friend of yours, but there’s a fine line between being blunt and degrading.
The dress may not be something she would pick out, but that’s fine. It’s for YOU. If you feel beautiful in that dress and it makes you feel like a bride, you should get it.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone for your comments; I’m glad other people think the dress is beautiful too – and @curlyncurvy – I love how you put it, that there’s a line between being blunt and being degrading; I just may need to remind her of that.
Thank you so much ladies – this is exactly why I <3 the bee
Post # 9
It is indeed a lot of lace, but it’s beautiful! And yes, it’s traditional, but traditional isn’t necessarily bad – lots of things are traditional for a reason: they’re awesome enough to stick around. The dress is lovely, and you should get it.
Post # 10
It looks traditional, but def not “too traditional”. Its very pretty and you look gorgeous! Just because she doesnt like doesnt mean its bad.
Post # 11
Love it!!! Definitely suits your body, and if you and your mom love it…GO FOR IT!!!
Post # 12
OMG!!! Is the first thing that I said to myself when I say your photo my chin hit the floor!!! You look sooo gorgeous in that gown!!! I say, ignore her, or lose her as your Maid/Matron of Honor if you don’t want the drama. I think she’s just green with envy!!! Say yes to the dress!!! It looks like it was made for you! 😀
Post # 13
I really love this dress! Who cares what your mom thinks… it’s your wedding day and you are allowed to look however you want to. At first I was looking for approval from my mom and sister, but then I realized that we had entirely different tastes and I was going to get what I wanted. Sometimes you have to step out of your shell and give it to them 🙂
Post # 14
That is so rude!!!! You look lovely in that dress. Remember, some people have bad taste!!!
Post # 15
You look gorgeous…
My advice… tell her go jump!!