- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
My dad asked what his “job” was at the wedding, and I couldn’t think of anything. Now that I am thinking about it, I have unintentionally taken away all the father of the bride responsibilities.
I didn’t ask him to help pay- I decided to accept his help if he offered, but he didn’t bring it up. We wanted to keep things simple and casual, so we’re skipping a lot of the traditional things- no bridal party, no rehersal dinner, no formal pictures, no walking down aisle, no receiving line, no dancing, etc. We’re not having the giving away of the bride during the ceremony since we feel it is a bit outdated. We were planning on having only 1 person give a toast, so I hadn’t asked him to do that, either.
Now I am feeling bad- I don’t want him to feel unimportant, but I don’t know at this point how to include him. The only thing I have done is gave him a wedding cake sample, but it got left out and by the time he ate it, it was a little stale.
My parents are divorced and mother is involved in that she is helping pay- I didn’t ask, but she offered, and she went with me to meet with the event planner at the restaurant and try the food and also sampled the cake.
Should I try to “make up” something for him to do? Should I ask him to give the toast? If he is giving a toast I feel like I need to ask my mother as well, and then if my family is toasting his family should toast, and then it gets bigger and more complicated than we want. I could ask him to be a whitness for the license, although we were planning on having two friends do that.