- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I have 6 bridesmaids, all have been great but 1. I never expected her to participate in nearly as much stuff as the others because she lives far away and has 2 little kids. She did tell me this when I first asked her- she said she would love to be there on the day but wouldn’t be able to do the shower and the bachelorette party. I told her no problem because I never expected that anyway.
However with the things I did expect, she is even letting me down on those. She asked if she can change out of the gown as soon as the ceremony is over. She asked if she can wear nude shoes instead of silver like the other girls are. She is making up excuses for not coming to the rehearsal. I asked her by text and phone message if she can at least be at the venue on the wedding day 2 hours early and she has not gotten back to me.
I am growing more concerned because she is planning to drive the 8 hours from where she lives the morning of the wedding with her husband and 2 kids… I don’t know how she is going to be dressed and ready and at the venue by 3pm.
I am not mad at her, as I understand how difficult it is with kids. Also she is from a different culture and just doesn’t get a lot of the traditional american wedding cultures. But I am starting to feel like this whole thing is a burdon on her, I should never have asked her. The wedding is 2 weeks away so its too late to “fire” her now. I talked to one of our mutual friends who told me she joked with her that she is the bridesmaid from hell and is going to get fired, and told her of course she has to wear the shoes and the dress. I think I will have to talk to her today as well. I feel awful having to do that and add stress to her already packed life right now, but what else can I do? Am I being too demanding? Advice anyone? Thanks.