(Closed) I feel like I NEVER see him…what’s a girl in waiting to do??

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My fiance has his own business and he works seven days a week (he has one day off a week, but eh does his business paperwork that day, so it is seven days, in effect.) I see him for three nights a week, he gets in at 5, we go to bed at 10 and he leaves again at 8 the next morning. He does take occasional days off but the most amount of time I have spent with him is a four day holiday. And even then he took care of business matters on the phone a couple of times.

 

I do wish I could have evenings and weekends with him. But right now is trying to make money for our future, and he is doing what he loves to do. I don’t want to pressure him or guilt him out for working so hard, because I know the onway we can have a future right now (I am job hunting too) is if we both work hard for a few years.

 

Treasure the time you have with your SO, accept that this isn’t forever, and ask him at a neutral time if he can book some time off in the near future so you guys can grab a couple of days, just to keep you going.

 

When it comes to love, it’s an accept or reject thing. If you want a SO with lots of time to give you, your SO may not be the man.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Oh, I can see how that is frustrating. I am in a slightly similar situation. Darling Husband has an extremely busy law practice, I am a very busy teacher working long hours in my classroom, and we are also caring for his elderly mother next door. By the time Darling Husband and I get settled in from our duties, it’s 9 p.m. or so. Which means we have perhaps two hours of quality time per day on weekdays. Darling Husband also is a property manager and on weekends that keeps him busy….

 

I think this is what doctors’ wives go through! I wish we had more time together but he is so special and I love him so much with all of my heart that I am grateful for and cherish the time we do have together.

OP, keep plugging away and remember this too shall pass. This is not a permanent lifestyle for you. Once you get up and running with your career, your SO can ease back at work and you will have more time together. In my case, Darling Husband is at a point where he is going to start slowing down his work pace as we both approach early retirement…. I can’t wait to spend more time with my sweetie!

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