Post # 1
My husband’s younger brother is driving me insane. I’ve listed a few reasons, and I’m wondering if I’m just being a complete b*tch or if anyone else would feel the way I do also.
1)Whenever my mom is around, my BIL has this attitude that I absolutely can’t stand. He talks to my mom like she’s stupid, cuts her off, looks at her with disgust and sometimes just ignores her. My mom is really happy-go-lucky, outgoing, and friendly so she’s often talking and laughing.
2) I recently found out that my MIL had been gossiping about my mom. She thought my mom was making fun of my BIL because he has a new gf who is 21 years his senior. My mom LOVES my BIL’s gf, they’re almost the same age and her and I both really like the new gf. My husband even said “your mom is the last person to gossip, I’ve never heard her talk bad about ANYONE before.” And he’s totally right. Anyway, my BIL has cancelled coming to family events if he finds out my mom is coming…and I’m certain it’s because of the above.
3) He never invites my husband or myself over, while we always invite him to everything. I understand people don’t like entertaining, but he always has his mom and grandma over so I’m not sure why he would exclude his brother.
Now that I’ve written it all out, it sounds silly, but my feelings of dislike have been getting stronger and I find myself wanting to avoid situations where I know he’ll be around.
So am I being silly, or is it okay to feel this way towards him?
Post # 3
@Ryansgirl: I don’t have any advice but to say that I feel you on this. I’m having some issues with FBIL that I feel crazy for even thinking, but I know my reasons are valid…and so are yours.
I hope things get better 🙂
Post # 4
It’s perfectly ok to feel the way you do, sounds to me like some lines got crossed and your BIL is the dramatic type…I would put my foot down at his rudeness to my mother, someone’s going to cut my mother off mid-sentence over my rotting corpse and that is that. The rest of it’s pretty irrelevant in the sense that, if this guy is as caustic and quick to think the worst of people as he seems, who wants to be around him anyway?
I’m sorry it’s difficult though, I always get a little sad when I see how welcoming and loving my family has been to Mr. 99 and then look at the yowling pack of backstabbers that comprises his “family”, it gets me a little down…like I’m not good enough for them or something….and then Mr. 99 cleared that up right quick by saying, “That’s right! Your better!”
Keep your chin up girl, it’s ok!
Post # 5
@StefLovesJamie: Ah, someone who can relate. Thanks for the note, makes me feel a bit better. I only have 1 sister who I’m very close with and her and my husband get along great too, so my husband’s relationship with his siblings seems strange to me.
Post # 6
@Nona99: Yes I agree with everything you’ve written. Thanks for the note 🙂
Post # 7
@Ryansgirl: I also have only 1 sister and we get along well (she’s 14 so definitely not married though!), but FI’s relationship with FBIL is also strange.
FBIL is also FI’s younger brother. I wish I could offer more help, but I’m still stuck in the situation! LOL. Maybe when one of us figures something out we can post on here. ;P