Post # 1
I’ll try not to make this too long, so lets call it a semi vent lol. I can’t help but come back to this thought of me taking away his one and only moment to propose to me. Here’s a little back story. We went to school with each other and have always had the same circle of friends. We started dating in august 09 and instantly hit it off, im talking like in four months, my dog days were over, i couldn’t believe how smitten i was so quickly and what was even better was that he felt the same way too! So one day i was joking around and told him i wanted to marry him and gave him a milk ring lol, he laughed and said “we’ll see, but i would love to get you something better than a plastic ring”… We later went to my parents and my mom and dad gave him my grandma’s ring, he propsed, the whole one knee thing, but said it was a promise ring until he could get something better… Thats the first time i started feeling this pain. We went and picked out a gorgous ring that he put in layway because of funds, which i didn’t mind at all… But i knew it would be coming soon, cause i knew it was almost paid off, and i knew he wanted to take me to our favorite senic spot to actually redo the whole shebang… I still cried and i still had those butterflies but i wanted to be completely and utterly speechless like you see in the movies… i felt like because of those factors and the whole me “proposing” to him, i didn’t give him the chance to surprise me. i feel like i ruined the moment and turned it into this “engaged to be engaged” kinda feeling… I’ve talked to him about how i felt and he insist that i didn’t ruin a thing and that he was just happy to be able to give me something more and that he could be the one to ask me to marry him. I guess i just feel so strongly about it now because we watched a proposal on the knot from this guy that did a whole planned proposal and i cried like a baby… Am i just being weird, should i not worry, i mean its been forever since then, am i just dwelling on it?… i hope this wasn’t too long and confusing, i was typing on emotions lol… by the way sorry this picture is soooooo big but here’s the ring for atleast some happiness in this story
Post # 3
Your ring is beautiful!
I really don’t think you stole his thunder; i.e., it’s not like your milk ring “proposal” was better (more dramatic/romantic) than the one he planned for you, right? And it’s not like you forced him to propose. I think if anything, it probably made him really excited to know how excited you were to marry him!
It’s absolutely normal to see the crazy, over the top surprise proposals and get kind of a twinge if your own wasn’t like that (mine certainly wasn’t lol!). But truthfully…a lot of guys–even really great guys!–are not like that. Either they just aren’t that creative/romantic, or they’re so nervous about asking you to be theirs forever that just the words “Will you marry me” are a huge deal.
You have years to come for him to do amazing, take your breath away things for you–a proposal is just one aspect of your entire lives together. So try not to worry about it too much.
Post # 4
im sure you didnt steal anybody’s thunder. Unlike my sister who text me in the middle of dinner on the day h2b proposed ‘did he propose yet?’ lol i went mad at her when i got back home then to make matters worse she announced her pregnancy (despite knowing she was pregnant for ages) at our engagement celebration *rolls eyes* sisters eh?
I think that your milk ring proposal may have just confirmed what he was thinking (I dont think a guy would propose unless he was pretty sure he would get a yes) Knowing that you were both on the same page so to speak probably made things ten times easier for him
Post # 5
Alright thanks everyone! I don’t know why i’m freaking out or dwelling so much, especially with it being so close to the wedding i have so many other things to worry about lol
Post # 6
Ring is beautiful and I actually think this is an incredibly cute and touching story from two very obviously in love people.
Post # 7
I don’t think you stole his thunder! I think the milk ring bit makes the story so cute! My Fiance and I had a similar joke going with a ring pop and he almost tried to propose with one of those as a joke. Your ring is absolutely stunning by the way!
Post # 8
I knew the exact day he was going to propose yet he still managed to surprise in the details. Look he could have done anything he wanted and he could have laughed in your face rather than the cute milk ring. He loves you and thus he is what you need. There is no thunder to steal, it is about both of you not just one or the other. Be happy– you are getting married!