- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I’m starting to feel like I’m going nuts and I’m concerned that I’m being irrational. I feel like there’s a lot on my plate right now and I’m irritated about having a lot left to do.
Anyways, I tried to make some progress today with flowers. We talked to a florist which doesn’t advertise themselves as a wedding florist. They’re just a local florist we’ve gone to before and we thought it’d be worth a shot to check them out. They do a good job and all that jazz. Anyways, we went a few months back to talk to them and get an estimate after I talked to another florist (which is more hyped up as a wedding florist) and they wanted $4,000 for flowers (this wasn’t even a lot of flowers — like 3 centerpieces, toss bouquet, bridal bouquet, 4 bridesmaids bouquets, and bouts for groomsmen basically). The guy at the local florist gave us an estimate for the same stuff + some centerpieces and other stuff for like under $800. Obviously this pleased me immensley.
I like flowers but I personally don’t want to spend a ton on them — they’re not one of my top priorities I guess you could say. Obviously, I want them to be nice but it’s mainly my grandma who feels like we have to have them. And even then we’re not planning to have a ton. Anyways, the guy told us we didn’t really need to set anything in stone until later so we could think about what we wanted to do and get back to them.
So today we went and he wasn’t there. We didn’t schedule an appointment or anything — we just showed up. So it wasn’t a big deal that he wasn’t there. Anyways, we got stuck with this girl who was supposed to be helpful but didn’t know her stuff. She kept asking us what our budget was and what he price quoted us on.
I dunno about y’all but I hate being asked what our budget is. I hate it because I feel like if you say $1000 they’ll find a way to make it cost $1000. And if you say $700 then they’ll do the same for $700 or whatever. Like, I do not want to throw a number out there. I don’t persay have a budget so it irritates me when I’m asked. I feel like people should listen to what I want, ask questions about things, and quote me for what I’m asking for. If it’s too high then we can talk price — what can be substituted etc. Anyways, this girl didn’t know what flowers were available or anything and when we asked how soon we’d need to place an order she was like “oh you can do it anytime before the end of July…or August…or September…”
Okay, thank you for basically telling me nothing.
It drove me completely nuts. The phone rang and she was like brb and went to answer the phone. And I was about to explode while she was gone. She didn’t give any pricing or answer any questions. She asked me a ton of questions and tossed floral books my way when I brought in pictures of bouquets (that I showed him), flower girl sash color (so they’d know the darkest shade of pink I’d be okay with), my bouquet brooch, and a mason jar I want the bouquets to fit into after the ceremony w/some water so they stay fresh for the girls.
I dunno, it’s like………..making me nuts.
It’s not even just this situation — it’s a lot of stuff. I’m just stressed in general because we need to find rings, deal with the florist still, pick our menu (we’re doing that on Sunday now since Groomy will be gone for the original appt), find a cake, deal with dress alterations, groomy needs to pick what him and gmen are wearing, etc etc etc.
I know all of this doesn’t sound like a lot to some people. But it’s all paired with the fact that my groomy is getting ready to leave in about a week for another business trip that could potentially last two weeks. He’s been on two thus far (one in the country and one out of the country). And it’s kind of new for us — I usually at least see him on the weekend every week. So I’m stressed because I’m gonna miss him and worried about him when he’s gone too. Pair that with all of the above stuff, a perfectionist personality, and issues with my mother which I’m not even gonna get into, and you have a meltdown-y superduperbrit. *le sigh*
And, I realize 2 weeks doesn’t seem like a big deal to some. I have a friend who planned her entire wedding without her groom because he was gone w/the military. I dunno how anybody gets stuff done. I kind of feel whiney and weak right now. I just needed to vent. I guess I’m okay now.
Wish I could be cool as a cucumber like groomy. I’m such a worrier.