(Closed) I feel like I’m losing my mind … HELP!… Please?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

1. Well, only you can make the right choice. Fiance and I are getting married on labor day weekend b/c he has an extra day off from grad school, and we believe his professors will give him at least two more days off so we can have a mini-moon. Could you do this? Have you talked to advisors about an independent study with a professor you know to be able to complete the requirement?

2. Sometimes you have to get creative. The thing I’m concerned about is your expectation that someone else is paying for your wedding. My parents are paying, but they volunteered to–we never expected for them to pay. You can’t rely on someone to pay if they are unsure about it. Also, it sounds like your reception venue needs to cut you a deal with that–call them up, tell them that you have been caused undue hassle in as far as the double booking has gone, and you would like 10% off for your trouble. Check your contract–is there an out if they made the mistake?–and consider cheaper venues. Consider cheaper meal options, too.

3. You shouldn’t worry about the divorce rate, if you know you have a solid marriage. You’re a psych major, right? You should know the value of good premarital counseling and returning to counseling if you have any major issues.

It just sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now! You might consider pushing the wedding back just to save you some stress, but only you can make that call. Good luck!

Post # 4
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Maybe you could try and do the last class you need as an independent study during the summer? That way you could still graduate on time…

Post # 5
191 posts
Blushing bee

I feel like the best thing you could do is to push your wedding date out to December. I know you deff don’t want to hear that (if it was me, I wouldn’t want to hear that either!), but I think that might be the best solution.

This will give you time to finish up school without having to juggle your wedding and honeymoon. It will give you more time to plan — which will proooobably reduce your stress and it also gives you a few more months to squirrel away some more money.

But again, I know I wouldn’t want to hear this… so that being said… It is still possible for you to get married in August! I echo the thoughts of the other bees to try to get an independent study or just talk with your professors about your situation… I am sure you can work SOMETHING out. Also, I wouldn’t worry about living apart for a few months. What’s “normal” anyways?! Even though it will be tough to live the first 5 months of your marriage apart… once it’s over and you have your degree you can spend the rest of your lives together! In the long run…. 5 months isn’t that long.

And girl, don’t worry about things like divorce rate. Yes, things can happen and you can’t see into the future… but I agree with Labor0fLove… You obviously value marriage and wouldn’t jump into anything unless you knew you had a solid relationship. From what you posted it sounds like you guys really care about each other and I’m sure it’s just the stress of everything else that’s making you think like that!!!!

Hope this helps a little bit, and good luck with everything!!

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