- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I live with my SO in his in-laws house because I moved from a different state to be with my other half. His parents were gracious enough to let us stay with them until we could get on our feet comfortably.
My SO works, and I am in the process of looking for a job as we speak. I sat my man down a while ago and asked what things he’d like to see happen (in order) and he said he wants to get a down payment on a house first (30 grand), and go back to school and get married after we move into our own place. Am I being a brat here?: I was upset and asked why propose to me AFTER we’ll have no money to spare for anything when we move into our own place (bills, mortage, groceries, etc.)? He told me that a ring would be easy to save up after we got our own place, and I think quite the opposite! I express this to him and he said, “It’s not going to be all that long before I put a ring on your finger, afterwards. And besdies, what if it took me 5 years? You said you’d wait.” UGH! I feel like he’s more concerned getting our own place than marrying me! 🙁 I’d love to just be engaged before we spend our entire savings and then some on a brand new house and bills.
He says he thinks his parents would be upset if he got a ring while he was saving up for our own place in their home. I totally disagree. I think his parents would be estatic. It would help us save money in taxes if we got married shortly after we moved into our new place to go back to school and such. My birthday is in November, should I ask him for an engagement ring for my birthday/Christmas? I don’t really understand this! 🙁 It sounds like he really wants to go through with this plan, and I wonder how long I’m going to have to loathe waiting more and more. It just upsets me so much!
Edit: he also introduces me to people as his “fiance” and calls me wifey and such, but after this talk it feels like he’s just teasing me. :