(Closed) I feel like I’m over it.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

@authentic: I am there with you! My SO promised he would pop the question by March/April. Well……April is almost gone and so is my interest. I am not happy about this at ALL! Hang in there:0)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Aww I think this is good that your not so focused on getting engaged. It will go away when he pops the question, but for right now just keep focusing on you!! I think its also good you got to vent a little. Hang in there.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it’s a good place to be. I got there, felt like I was thinking about it less, which made me feel better, and then something happened where it “came up” and having an actual conversation ignited my curtiosities all over again. I wish I was back to Apathy. It was much better when everytime he did anything nice for me I wasn’t super suspicous of it. lol.

Post # 6
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think this is a good place to be, but I hate to mention that the cycle is a cycle…. you’ll be back at stage one or two before you realize it (unless he surprises you before long, of course).  Just stick your thought here and get ’em out as needed.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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493 posts
Helper bee

***hugs*** This is the WORSE part of the waiting cycle. As a PP said it will definitely cycle back around. Just hang in there. 5 years is a long time. My SO and I are going on 4 years so I know what you mean. Good Luck!

~~~~~~Sending proposal vibes your way~~~~~~

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I feel the same way. I’m just whatever with waiting right now since I have other important things to think about. Stage 3 is alot better than stage 2 imo.

Post # 9
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3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m sorry if I’m asking a dumb question, but what is June 2012, when you are getting married, or when you would like to be getting married? Sorry for the confusion.

By The Way, I think it’s great that you’re focusing on yourself right now.  That is always a good thing. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@authentic: Ah, okay, thank you for answering that.

From what you said in the post, it sounds promising–specifically him wanting to see rings you like.

Good luck!

Post # 12
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82 posts
Worker bee

Well, he talks about it, he brings it up, he drops hints, I’m thinking it’s coming, maybe not tomorrow lol but soon. The only advice I have is, don’t get to the “resentment” feeling, that’s where I let myself go and I walked, still happy I did, but resentment is hard to reverse.  Stay positive and vent, vent, vent on the board when need be ๐Ÿ™‚ we all know it helps to get it out ! 

Post # 13
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450 posts
Helper bee

@authentic: I have been in that stage and I definitely prefer it more than other stages.  I have to work really hard to control my thoughts or else I slip into freak out mode.  

By the way, the thread you linked about the different stages doesn’t work–would you mind linking it again?  I would really like to see that thread. 

Post # 14
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1313 posts
Bumble bee

@authentic: I can’t quite give advice, because I am there myself.. I’ve even been questioning the relationship. NOT fun :/ And, yes the tables seem to have turned a bit, he loathed marriage talk before.. and now that I’ve told him how I feel, he’s said a few times.. “well you don’t even know if you want to marry me” ๐Ÿ™ So it’s on his mind… I hope we get through this patch, and good luck to you too! Doesn’t sound like you are questioning HIM, so that’s great! You will get past the funk, but enjoy your “me” time right now:)

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I felt the same way when my bf bought a tv, his truck, laptop, etc. Can’t really do anything about it sadly since it’s his money and his choice how to spend it. He doesn’t tell me how to spend my money so I’m not going to tell him how to spend his. Good luck especially since it seems like he’s possibly saving money for a ring.

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