- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
This is kind of a rant. I guess I’m just frustrated, but advice/opinions are welcome.
I did post about this Bridesmaid or Best Man earlier. Long story short, she had previously asked if she could bring a friend as a guest and we told her yes. She brought this girl to the dress fitting this weekend and she rubbed me and the other girls the wrong way. My 6 year old niece was there and the girl was cursing, when my Maid/Matron of Honor asked her to stop she said “I don’t care. Not my kid”. I talked to my Bridesmaid or Best Man about this because I don’t want her cursing in front of my toddler at the wedding or the 15 other kids there, and she basically defended her and said she was being sarcastic.
I was just talking to my Maid/Matron of Honor about this, and she said she feels like the girl is only interested in what she wants to do, doesn’t really care about what I want for my big day. All 3 of them have been going to appointments with me and such and then we normally end up going to lunch. The day I went to try on dresses, I just asked where they wanted to go and she said she wanted to go to a certain place. Well, my Maid/Matron of Honor just got food poisoning from where she wanted to go and said we can’t go there. We picked another place and was like … well I can’t afford to eat. I just won’t go. She got really passive agressive about the whole thing and its been that way anytime we do something. She keeps sending me pictures of flower and decor type stuff that she said she wants to do, but its like, its my wedding. I know she wants to help, but she’s coming across as pushy.
The 3 of them also did my baby shower for me, and it just came out that this friend has agreed to help plan/pay for it, and then bailed. (I didn’t know this). So the other girls are worried about the same thing happening with my bridal shower. My sister and Maid/Matron of Honor are meeting next week to plan out my shower, and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man was pissed when she found out she wasn’t invited. The other girls say she hasn’t said anything about wanting to help, and that they can’t just assume she’s going to help this time. My Maid/Matron of Honor was going to do it by herself, but then my sister asked if she could help, so I guess they are expecting the other girl to let them know also.
I kind of feel like I’m the peacekeeper and I hate that.