(Closed) i feel like my life is over

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sigh…..yes. I went to school for medical coding and I failed the first certification test. It is common to fail it the first time, but I feel overwhelmed! WHat if I dont pass the second test? Years of my life, money for school down the drain. Its still up in the air about what Im going to do. But I hope you figure yours out.

ANy way for you to ask as many questions about the paper work when your not alone??Hope it all works out.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Ok, first…your life isn’t over! And yes…I definitely realized that I made the wrong career choice as I was graduating with my Accounting degree. WTH was I thinking? I hate Accounting!

I gave it a fair shot…I worked as a staff accountant for a large corporation for about 2 1/2 years and then worked my way into a position that I love right now.

I think what you need to do is give nursing a chance. It sounds like you’re giving up very quickly after 2 not so ideal jobs. Get some experience under your belt and move around a bit. There are so many different aspects of nursing, and so many things you can do. If you find you don’t like what you’re doing, start looking elsewhere and build your experience up. Try different types of nursing. Right now you’re getting your experience in mental health. Stay there for a bit and then look for something that might interest you more…geriatric nursing or maternity. Getting experience is the first step to the rest of your career!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am getting ready to do my student teaching next semester and I think this alot! Lately its been almost everyday because I am so overwhelmed with the workload right now. I guess I have to finish and give it a try and see how it goes with my own classroom over time. If I still really don’t feel like I’m not in the right field, I will try to find something different.  I think you should give it some time or you might always regret it, but if you are always miserable it may not be worth it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Girl, I think many people feel the same way. INCLUDING ME!! I went to culinary school and got 2 degrees. A major in Culinary and a minor is restaurant management. I do love it, and its my passion. BUT – you dont make much, your a slave, if you DO want to make the big bucks you have 0 life. My school loans at $750 a month.. on top of my other bills. Fiance doesnt make much at his job and I am paying for the wedding. SCREW SCHOOL!!! lol. its was $75,000.00!

When we have kids, if they dont get a full ride to college I am going to tell them it might not be worth it. It really does screw you in the end if your not rich.

And most of the time, Who really ends up doing what they go to school for?? lol. Most people I know went to school for something totally different than what they end up in. lol

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@Willow1991: πŸ™ Did you enjoy nursing school? I mean while you were in school, did you think this is the profession for you? Because maybe you have just had really crappy luck in your first two positions. πŸ™ Maybe just keep applying to jobs in the field you did enjoy training for….. and keep this position only till you find one that fits you?

I am sorry you feel like you have failed, or made a  horrible mistake….. But (and just my two cents here) You absolutely did neither. All of your time an money are NOT waisted… Even if you decide nursing isn’t for you. You still have that under your belt. And you are NOT 90 years old…. LOL You have a TON of time to just figure it out.

The good news here….?? It is that you are not the kind of woman to settle and just collect your paycheck. πŸ™‚ That means that in time you WILL find a perfect fit for you. I think πŸ™‚

I hope you feel better soon…….

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

I have 4 years of a degree in secondary edu done (I’m only 1 semester away) and $30k in student loans because of it. There is no way in hell I want to be a teacher any longer.

I don’t have any advice, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

First your life isn’t over and second you didn’t fail. However you need to give it another chance. I’ve been in nursing for over 5 years now and see alot of people come and go without giving it a chance. No one said it was going to be easy but there are alot of areas to find something you enjoy. Don’t quit because your preceptor was bad. Stand up for yourself and talk to HR and they can find someone else. Not being harsh but how you learn in this field is by going out there and doing it, not someone holding your hand. Paperwork is nothing and you will pick up on it. There are many places out there that will just throw you out there to sink or swim and it’s unfortunate but you also learn this way. If it’s still too much for you, try a doctors office where you can build your confidence then try again later. You will succeed! Honestly I just think you are scaring yourself too much because it’s your first job, that’s normal. However you came too far to just give up. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I went to school for criminal psych. I stopped in the middle of a doctorate program. I had over $200k in student loans. I remember feeling like such a failure because I hated everything about it. I still think people should take 2 years after high school to work and then make a decision about the rest of their lives. Making decisions when we’re 18 seems so silly to me.

I own an event planning business now and am as happy as a clam πŸ™‚ You’ll figure it out.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve been in nursing for almost 8 years and I will say that it is a tricky field to get your bearings in. For whatever reason, nurses really do eat their young and for every great preceptor there are dozens of crappy ones! Plus no matter if you’re at a hospital, mental health instituition, clinic, or office it is ALWAYS hard in the beginning. Most places are short staffed and overbooked and, unfortunately, that often leads to people being on their own before they are ready. For example, about 4 years ago I started at a new hospital. I literally had 14 hours with a preceptor before I had to be out of work unexpectedly for some pregnancy complications. On my first day back after so little orientation and missing a MONTH of work….I was in charge….of a unit that I had never even set foot on. It was crazy and I was furious!

My advice is to go to your manager or director and talk about your concerns. For one, you may hate the way things are but do you really hate nursing? Can you separate the two? Most people don’t go into nursing for the money, hours, or appreciation because trust me…its a hard job with little glory. So I’m guessing you chose this career because deep down something about it spoke to you. Also, addressing your concerns with your superiors (and keeping a record of it) serves to help protect you and your license. If, God forbid, something did happen then you would at least have the proof that you made it known that you weren’t ready.

Good luck, girl!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it just takes time.. little by little everything will make more sense–

I sometimes think I made the wrong descision too.. I actually changed my major back and forth– Cuz I had a hard time to choose.. eehh..

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with PPs, it sounds like you have landed two stressful jobs right away, but if you went through nursing school feeling that you enjoyed it, I think you should give it a little more time. I always feel overwhelmed when I start a new job- so much to learn, and often I don’t feel ready to be placed on my own (I’ve had bad luck finding jobs that actually train employees rather than just making do the job without learning it). But once you learn a few things, meet a few nice coworkers, things start getting easier, and I can’t imagine it would be any different with nursing. And there are so many areas to go into- maybe mental health just isn’t the area for you. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@mwitter80:

I agree! I remember my family being so pissed at me because my first 2 years in college I went from a Marine Science major to Biology to Pharmacy to Special Ed. I had no clue what I wanted to do! I then took a year off then put myself through nursing school. I wish I didn’t waste those 2 years but I may have ended up in a field I hated. I encourage all kids now to either do what you suggested or take the core classes at a community college till they figure it out.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your life has just begun!

Nursing is such a vast field, surely there is a way whether behind the desk or bedside you can find something you LOVE?!

Jobs are definately overwhelming in the beggining! I was a medcial assistant back out of highschool and I had to learn evertything from the ground up while working, directly under the doc. I remember trying to learn how to cast a foot and failing 3 times iin a row, wasting supplies, ruining the appointment timing schedules, people giving me werid looks ( like what was I doing there, I’m an idiot). As for paperwork. I did an assist in a surgery of an 88 year old man and I forgot to have him sign his ” if we mess up/or you die , you can’t sue us type relase” my boss almost had a heart attach! I’vr wrttien medicines spelled wrong, and filled out patient histories, sketchily- it happens to everyone

So anyways fast foward, I ended up being the best assistant they had ever had. I got to know all the regulars, and I absoluetly fell in love with the job. If I had quit when I thought I was clueless or sucking it up, I never would have made it to see the benefits! Don’t be afraid to ask questions!

I would try also getting a night shift, so things are a bit slower ( hopefully ) and you can ask quesitons and gain your bearings. When you were in nursing school, was their a dream job? like a school nurse? Labor and delivery? pediatrics?

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

And I also am guilty of getting a degree in something you totally want nothing to do with πŸ˜‰ you are not alone!

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