(Closed) I feel like smothering my husband with his pillow!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Has he looked into getting help for his snoring? Snoring can indicate an underlying problem – sleep apnea – especially if it’s getting worse. He can try breathe right nasal strips in the short term, but it’d be a really good idea for him to see a doctor about it and maybe even do a sleep study.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

separate bedrooms.  No joke.  It’s the only thing that works for us.  He’s been to the dr, he has a CPAP, he tried mouthguards, nose strips, everything.

I tried every ear plug on the market

we finally decided it wasn’t worth sleeping in the same bed.  No one got any sleep. He kept worrying that he was going to snore, and I couldn’t fall asleep because I was waiting for the snoring to start.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have to agree with @jocember, he may have sleep apnea and should do a sleep study.  Does he typically sleep on his back when he is snoring?  Has he tried sleeping on his side?  

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I agree with the sleep study suggestions! If he refuses to do that, try the breathe right strips. They’ve done wonders for some people!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@GroovyHippieChick:  we have friends that do this too – the snoring is just too much that they would rather sleep in seperate bedrooms and it works really well for them.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

there is a product by Snore RX that you put in your pillow (its basically a liner that goes   inside your pillow case) that is supposed to help this 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

He should get a sleep study done.

That being said I would suggest going to bed before him (enough time for you to fall asleep before he comes to bed) so that you can drift off without the noise. I find that when I do that, I do get woken up by him getting into bed, but I am normally fast asleep again before he starts snoring so that I don’t notice it as bad and can get a good nights sleep.

Its so unfair how men (normally – there are reversed cases) can just drift off so quickly while we lay there tossing/turning and listening to the snoring so it makes it even harder to fall asleep!! haha

I think that after his sleep study they will suggest what he can do as well, if it turns out to not be sleep apnea.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh.  My.  Goodness.  My Fiance and I are the same way.  He can fall asleep in seconds, which usually means I’m up late, unable to sleep and fuming mad, listening to his snoring.  It’s admittedly a light snore, but I’m a very light sleeper.  I’ve asked him more than once to sleep on the couch on those nights when I don’t make it to bed before him.  Lol!  That might make me a bad Fiance, but I need my sleep!

I can’t wait until we’re able to get a larger place with at least two bedrooms!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Its so unfair how men (normally – there are reversed cases) can just drift off so quickly while we lay there tossing/turning and listening to the snoring so it makes it even harder to fall asleep!! haha

Lol its the opposite here, I can pass out to problem but my SO tosses and turns forever, he ususally ends up sleeping in our sparebed so that he doesn’t wake me up. We also have to sleep with a fan going or nobody sleeps.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fans. On high.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ugh, I can relate to you, at least today.  Last night my Fiance, who normally doesn’t snore much at all, for some reason did snore – all night.  He fell asleep immediately (men, of course!) and I was left tossing and turning . . . would just about drift off . . . and then . . . snort!  I would be wide awake again.  I put in ear plugs, finally, about 2am.  I don’t feel so great today from only getting 3 1/2 hours of sleep.  I can’t imagine if he did that every night, I’d be sleeping on the couch, lol. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry for your situation!  I know how it feels.

I know you said you tried ear plugs…but perhaps a different type?  I also am a light sleeper but I got ear plug samples one day at work and tried a bunch of types.  For me the Howard Leight Laser Lites work awesomely.  They are very soft so that they are pretty comfy, and they mold to the inside of your ear after you insert them.  They are used by construction crews, etc, so they VERY effectively block noise.  I bought mine on Amazon.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just wanted to say that I’m sorry and understand how frustrated you are. Especially given your current living situation and DH’s lack of ability to switch positions to cut down on the snoring. I understand that his CPAP is uncomfortable, but he really needs to give it the old college try again. It’s unfair of him to continue to shake the bedframe with his snorning night after night while you lay awake AND the have to go into work the next day. Best of luck finding a more comfortable CPAP and I hope he recovers from his operation soon. Hang in there!

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