Post # 1
I just need a space to vent that isn’t to my friends or fiance, not that they aren’t all supportive…I don’t know I’m almost like, embarrassed or something. I applied for nursing school after a solid two years of taking at least twelve credits and working full time for most of it. This summer, I took 20 credits and did a condensed CNA course that was Monday-Friday 12 Pm-9 Pm at night, so most days I was out of the house for 15 hours at a time, and then coming home to do homework. It was so stressful, I had no life and money was so tight because I had no time to work. I retook classes, and had a million set backs and managed to work through it all. On top of being proud of myself for getting A’s in classes that I previously never thought I could pass, as well as earning my first 4.0, I finally made my family proud too because I used to be such an awful student. I got the email letting me know if I got an interview (the next step in the application process) and was shocked when I got rejected. I had more than enough points to make the cut off, so I went to my advisor because I was like ‘okay obviously this is just a mistake no big deal’. It was a mistake…but on my part. Like an IDIOT I messed up the final section on the application and didn’t receive those points, even though all of the supporting documentation was there. The school isn’t budging on this and after a week of trying, along with a counselor advocating for me too, I have finally accepted that I have to wait a full year to apply again (well, 9 months but I wouldn’t start the program until september of 2019). Out of everything that could have brought me down, it was something so simple and stupid. I can’t believe I would make a mistake like this and the guilt I feel for putting my fi, friends and family through this process with me. For two years they understood that I was busy, stressed and were always there for me. My mom helped me pay for tuition, Fi picked up the slack around the house…and now it’s like it was for nothing. I could have taken less classes, worked more and it wouldn’t have set me back. This also pushes back having children for a year, which is something that Fi and I have been counting down to. I thought that if I got rejected I’d be able to scream and cry and freak out and have the satisfaction of an emotional release, but I can’t. I feel straight up numb, and so anxious about putting myself back a year. It’s been a few days so I feel like I should start getting over this but honestly I feel like I am just going through the motions and I don’t know how to make myself feel happy right now. To know that I had more than enough points, and that I’m disqualified based not on my performance but on a clerical error, is so painful and genuinely feels like a nightmare. I’m 25 and was so ready to finally be in the final stretch of school, after nearly a decade of trying to figure out what I wanted to do, and feeling like everyone around me had it figured out. Most of my friends have degrees, and houses, and careers…I’ll be 28 when I graduate, if I even get in next year. Can someone who’s maybe been in in a similar situation offer up some words of advice? And yes, I know that comparison is the thief of joy and my friend’s lives have no bearing on my own but in moments like these it’s hard not to feel ‘behind’.
Post # 2
Aw, bee that really sucks. But you aren’t a failure and the sacrifices made by you and your family are not for nothing.
My husband was rejected from all 3 PhD programs he applied to the first time around. It was pretty crushing for him. But in the year between the rejection and reapplying he took steps to make his application even stronger and was not only accepted to all three programs but was offered additional money and told he was a top choice applicant for those programs,
And him entering a year later was actually so much better in ways we couldn’t have even anticipated. Looking back we both agree that him getting rejected the first time around was kind of a blesssing in disguise.
I know it’s hard to have a positive outlook now but this is just a tiny bump in the road. A year is nothing in the scheme of things.
Post # 3
It is a blow. but it doesn’t have to be a crushing one. Use this 9 months to work and save money. You can do it. Are there any other courses you can take in the meantime?
I went back to college and nursing school after I ran away from home with the children and the furniture. (See, I can make light of it now, although at the time I was petrified and thought we’d be living in a basement suite and surviving on tea and cat food).
Luckily I was able to get credit for courses I had taken the first time I went to university, so once I was actually accepted to nursing school, I didn’t have to take any of the electives like English,Psychology, Science etc. It saved me so much ime and helped me be a Mom and not just a student nurse.
Post # 4
I was supposed to start school this past January 2018. I got accepted even. However life got in the way and I was not able to start class. I am devastated! I don’t know if I will be accepted for the next term because it was an extremely difficult program to get in to. This also throws MY TTC plans in the water. And guess what? I am 36!
But I remind myself all the time that I was also burning out to the max and starting off school at this time could have spelled disaster for me health wise. I always think I am immune to this kind of stuff but I am not. I think it was God’s way of telling me to step back, relax and jump start at the next chance. In the mean time, I am confirming my desires to that program, also taking some mini-classes that are unrelated but would be useful to me in my future anyway in any career, like public speaking, writing, etc.
Post # 5
Thank you so much to everyone who responded. It’s so nice not to feel alone.
queenie8119 : I am so sorry, it sounds like we’re in similar boats so I know it probably hasn’t been easy for you. I have a pretty similar fear too, the cut off shifts every year so just because I made the cut this year doesn’t guarantee that I will next year. Half of the stress I felt throughout this process was worry that it was all in vain, and now I have to feel that same stress for another year. We will get through this, and if you ever need someone to vent to feel free to DM me! I agree with you too and feel like maybe this was a sign or something that I shouldn’t start my marriage off with a stressful school regimen, and instead enjoy some time with a routine, steady income and some free time.
Post # 6
You made a mistake. It’s ok. People aren’t perfect and mistakes happen. Try to focus on the positives of the things you have done well. I know 9 months seems like a long time, but it’ll go by before you know it.
I am an RN. It was a long road to this point. I had to drop a CNA class because of an ear infection/bronchitis. I had another semester where I couldn’t take any classes because I sprained my knee. At the time, it seemed like I would never finish nursing school!
Despite the set backs, I eventually graduated. I’ve been working as an RN for 5 years now.
What can you do between now and 9 months? Maybe add some volunteer work that is related to nursing? Are there any classes that you can take now? Talk to your counselor about the best choices for your time.
Post # 7
This is a delay, not a failure.
You put in the work and you still qualify. Sure it sucks to have to wait but you still accomplished everything you need to do. And you’ll be surprised how fast the months will go by!
Post # 8
I can sure see how disappointing this is. But if you take a long view of life, you are doing well in school, you have a direction you are going in, and you are moving forward.
One question I don’t get: Could you apply to a different nursing school?
Post # 9
msmeow13 : Sounds good MsMeow! Hang in there!