I feel like such a failure

posted 1 year ago in Career
Post # 2
9543 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Aw, bee that really sucks. But you aren’t a failure and the sacrifices made by you and your family are not for nothing.

My husband was rejected from all 3 PhD programs he applied to the first time around. It was pretty crushing for him. But in the year between the rejection and reapplying he took steps to make his application even stronger and was not only accepted to all three programs but was offered additional money and told he was a top choice applicant for those programs,

And him entering a year later was actually so much better in ways we couldn’t have even anticipated. Looking back we both agree that him getting rejected the first time around was kind of a blesssing in disguise.

I know it’s hard to have a positive outlook now but this is just a tiny bump in the road. A year is nothing in the scheme of things. 

Post # 3
47175 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is a blow. but it doesn’t have to be a crushing one. Use this 9 months to work and save money. You can do it. Are there any other courses you can take in the meantime?

I went back to college and nursing school after I ran away from home with the children and the furniture. (See, I can make light of it now, although at the time I was petrified and thought we’d be living in a basement suite and surviving on tea and cat food).

Luckily I was able to get credit for courses I had taken the first time I went to university, so once I was actually accepted to nursing school, I didn’t have to take any of the electives like English,Psychology, Science etc. It saved me so much ime and helped me be a Mom and not just a student nurse.

Post # 4
751 posts
Busy bee


I was supposed to start school this past January 2018. I got accepted even. However life got in the way and I was not able to start class. I am devastated! I don’t know if I will be accepted for the next term because it was an extremely difficult program to get in to. This also throws MY TTC plans in the water. And guess what? I am 36! cry

But I remind myself all the time that I was also burning out to the max and starting off school at this time could have spelled disaster for me health wise. I always think I am immune to this kind of stuff but I am not. I think it was God’s way of telling me to step back, relax and jump start at the next chance. In the mean time, I am confirming my desires to that program, also taking some mini-classes that are unrelated but would be useful to me in my future anyway in any career, like public speaking, writing, etc. 

Post # 6
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You made a mistake. It’s ok. People aren’t perfect and mistakes happen. Try to focus on the positives of the things you have done well. I know 9 months seems like a long time, but it’ll go by before you know it. 

I am an RN. It was a long road to this point. I had to drop a CNA class because of an ear infection/bronchitis. I had another semester where I couldn’t take any classes because I sprained my knee. At the time, it seemed like I would never finish nursing school! 

Despite the set backs, I eventually graduated. I’ve been working as an RN for 5 years now. 

What can you do between now and 9 months? Maybe add some volunteer work that is related to nursing? Are there any classes that you can take now? Talk to your counselor about the best choices for your time.

Post # 7
234 posts
Helper bee

This is a delay, not a failure.

You put in the work and you still qualify. Sure it sucks to have to wait but you still accomplished everything you need to do. And you’ll be surprised how fast the months will go by! 

Post # 8
146 posts
Blushing bee

I can sure see how disappointing this is. But if you take a long view of life, you are doing well in school, you have a direction you are going in, and you are moving forward.

One question I don’t get:  Could you apply to a different nursing school? 


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