Post # 1
As the day of my friend’s shower is approaching, I can’t help but feel like such a tool! I wasn’t really thinking that I should do something different and creative, and I just continued on her peacock theme. It’s too late to change it now, but I just feel like I’ve totally stolen her thunder by having these elements (and her wedding colors) incorporated into the shower. Would you be mad if you were the bride and had a shower in the same theme as your wedding? I mean- it’s not exactly the same.
It’s not going to have the same feel as her wedding. She wanted a very polished, formal look for that (I’ve been helping her plan- at her request), but this is a bright, fun, whimsical take on the peacock theme. The tableclothes are bright paisley/damask in her blue and green colors, and we have white feather centerpieces…but I have a few things that are peacocks– like a dessert, gummy candy’s for favors that I made in a peacock mold, an advice book I had custom made with a peacock head screen printed and their wedding date and names, a ‘card cage’, and I decoupaged a recipe box and designed the recipe cards with little whimsical peacocks on them.
Please help me feel okay about this! I don’t think she’ll really think twice about it as she saw the invites before they went out and liked them, and they were peacock themed. She’s just not really up on the wedding planning (her wedding is a month away and she’s just now working on her invites), but I still don’t want to over do the shower to a point where people see it and then see her wedding and think it was better, KWIM? At the same time though, I want her to have a really nice shower and that’s the main reason I’ve planned so much. Bah.
EDITED: I talked to my friend like 5 seconds after I wrote this and just let her know how I was feeling. She was like, “Why would you use any other theme than peacocks?!” So, I feel better. I didn’t think she’d care, but I was worried that there was that slight chance that I’d screw it up.
Post # 3
I think that’s totally fine! I wouldn’t care if my shower was like my wedding, most of the ones I’ve seen have kind of been like that. The one you planned sounds really fun&pretty lol!!
Post # 4
My sister and other bridesmaids incorporated some elements of my wedding theme into my shower, and it was such a wonderful surprise! I loved it. Because the two events are so different, I wouldn’t be worried about stealing her thunder.
Post # 5
It sounds like you’ve put in a lot of thought and effort. I think it will be nice that the bridal shower will be in a very similar style to the wedding. I think it’s kind of nice that it’s coordinated. Don’t worry, I’m sure she’ll love it.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine! It’s a completely different event and it’s someone else’s interpretation of the wedding. I can’t imagine that it would steal her wedding’s thunder or disappoint her! It’s a fun day with ladies and she’s going to appreciate the work you did on it. That is what counts, not the fact that there are peacock feathers at the shower & the wedding. Take a deep breath and be proud of yourself for the work you’ve done.
Post # 7
I don’t think you’re a tool at all! You want to make sure your friend has a nice time at her shower, which is awesome. The shower my girls threw for me was the same theme as my wedding. Our colors are purple so they had purple and green colors for napkins/plates/etc. I thought they did a GREAT job and really tied everything together nicely. I think some people do something different than the bridal theme, but most showers I’ve been to tie in the wedding colors. I think everything will be great, it sounds really cool. No worries, I’m sure she will be very grateful for all you have done for her.
Post # 8
Whew! Thanks for helping me feel at ease, ladies. Deep breaths…hah. I think I’m more stressed over the wedding than the bride!
Post # 9
No, it’s totally fine! I think my bridesmaids are decorating for my shower in my wedding colors. I’m glad you talked to the bride and she eased your worries, too.
Post # 10
As a girl who just had her shower today, I can only say that I absolutely loved the fact that my aunt cared enough to use my colors. It meant so much to me that my family and friends personalized the party to my weddding and my personality. So good work!! Your friend is going to have the most amazing time!
Post # 11
You’re a nice friend and very thoughtful. She’s very lucky. I’m glad you were able to call and now you feel better. I think all your ideas sound amazing.
Post # 12
I’m glad to talked to her about it! I’m sure you will all have a great time…ps..you sound like a great friend…
Post # 13
oooh I’m so glad she was happy about it!
Post # 14
I think it’s nice that you used the same theme inspiration but, like you said, are making it more whimsical. Very creative. I’m glad you checked with her and she’s cool with it because I think it’s a really neat idea. Obviously she likes the theme and this gives her a chance to enjoy it in a different way.
Post # 15
My Maid/Matron of Honor said she got red and gold invites for my shower which is the same colors as my wedding and I was thrilled at just that!
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think it sounds like you put lots of thought and effort into this shower and THAT’S what the bride will notice! You’re a great friend for incorporating her wedding theme and it’s going to be lovely! No need to worry!