(Closed) I feel like taking back the invite for “do you want to be my bridesmaid?”

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Retract the invite to be a bridesmaid?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    36 %
    No : (5 votes)
    45 %
    It depends... : (2 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Just talk to her, be frank and clear about your expectations and the fact that you won’t feel less about her if she takes herself out of the wedding. Is she local to you or to where the wedding is?


    I’ve got a friend who was very close to me when I was first engaged, but I’ve moved and we moved apart. She would have had to travel for the wedding and she doesn’t have the funds to do it, so her solution was to just not talk to me, not respond to my messages, emails, texts, phone calls, etc. I just had to nail her down and get her to talk to me. We’re still friends and the “Bridesmaid”weight has been lifted and we actually talk from time to time now.

    I don’t know, but this might be what’s going on with your friend.

    Post # 4
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    it depends how you word it… if she DOES want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and feels like you are indirectly asking her to step down, that is a pretty good way to end a friendship! 

    Unless she actually does something wrong, then I think it’s very mean to un-invite her.

    Post # 5
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I have a bridesmaid like that right now and quite frankly I have been a little disappointed in all my bridesmaids and almost wanted to nix them all. Then I realized, you know what, we are all really busy and just not on the same schedules. Don’t un-ask a Bridesmaid or Best Man until they actually refuse to be reasonably helpful.

    Post # 6
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I agree, talk to her. I would say something along the lines of, I know being a bridesmaid is a lot of responsibility, and it wouldn’t hurt my feelings if you decided it would be too much for you….

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