- 2 years ago
- Wedding: City, State
Okay, so here is some backstory: My mother and I have had a rocky relationship in the past. The day before my 18th birthday, she moved across the country with her at-the-time boyfriend, and left me to live with my sister (who I’ve also had a rocky relationship with in the past.) I was still in high school at the time, and didn’t know what to do. My sister didn’t want me there. I felt like my mom couldn’t wait to get rid of me when I turned 18 (although the truth is that her boyfriend travels for work and the timing was just really horrible.) I worked part time at Taco Bell. I was so, so lost.
Before my mom left, she had asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I’m a big Disney fan, and I told her I wanted the Tangled DVD, because it was one of the only Disney animated films that I hadn’t seen. She got it for me. So the night before my 18th birthday, the night she left, I watched it. For those of you who don’t know, the plot is about a very sheltered girl venturing out into the world by herself for the first time ON HER BIRTHDAY. I didn’t know this at the time. It was so fitting, and I just cried and cried watching it. I related to it so much. For the first time, I felt like I was going to be okay on my own.
On my 20th birthday, I got the Tangled sun emblem tattooed on my leg. Kind of cheesy, but it reminds me that I’m okay when adult life gets hard.
Skip forward to present day!
My future mother-in-law has asked about my tattoo. I don’t really like to go into detail about it, so I just told her that it was from my favorite Disney film. She asked if she could borrow my DVD because she’s never seen it, and I said of course. I thought it was sweet because she was trying to get to know me better.
So today I get off work. I’ve been working overtime every week for the past couple months trying to save for our wedding. So I’m exhausted. My fiancé calls me. He informs me that his mother had a “project” during which she threw out all of her movie cases and put all the discs in these little protective sleeves in order to save space. I’m like, “Oh, what a good idea for saving space. Neat.”
He then tells me that she had forgotten she borrowed Tangled from me, assumed it was hers, and threw out the case.
I know it’s a silly thing to be upset about. She meant no harm. And it’s just a plastic case. But wow, did it upset me. I came home and cried. My fiancé says that he will buy me a new copy (on BluRay, which is an upgrade from my old copy), but I’m still just upset. I want MINE. The one my mom got me for my birthday.
Anyway, she gave him the disc and told him to apologize to me. She doesn’t understand how much it meant to me though. I wouldn’t dare tell her because it will just upset her, and like I said, I KNOW she meant absolutely no harm by it. She’s a very sweet woman, she can just be SO absent-minded sometimes. Ugh.
Anyway, I’m going to try my best to let it go. I think I’m just really tired from working so much and trying to plan this wedding, and that movie was a touchy button for her to push. I just needed to vent somewhere, so thank you to whoever read this.☺️
Bottom line is that I will probably never ever let her borrow anything EVER again (and at least I get a BluRay out of it, right?)