(Closed) I feel rejected..

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Ninteenthchance:  You aren’t doing anything wrong, sex is a tricky thing, and in long term relationships, it ebbs and flows with the stressors and successes of your life….it’s not a barometer for a successful relationship but ignoring a draught is not a good thing either…the best thing you can do, is not take it personally and look for the ways that your SO is connecting with you on a non-sexual level, to increase your intimacy.

Post # 4
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

I’m sorry you are feeling like this. I can totally relate. My Fi wanting me makes me feel… Well.. Desirable. But the opposite is also true. 

I don’t think you are doing anything wrong, just try not to stress about it. Your idea to dress up cute was perfect. So it didn’t work out today.. There will be another day… As Nona says, these thiebb bob and flow.. Make sure your sexual distance isn’t a reflection of emotional distance and you should be ok..

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@Ninteenthchance:  I agree that emotionally and physical intimacy often go hand in hand. When my Fiance and I first started dating, we had sex constantly. We didn’t live together, so we made the most of the time we had. Now though, we are often just so exhausted (and that’s an awful excuse, you have to make time). We always make time for intimacy, such as cuddling, kissing, and massages, but sometimes we don’t have sex as often as I’d like.

Don’t leave all the initiating up to him. If he says he isn’t that sexual of a person, inspire him. Send him sexy texts and pictures throughout the day (I am currently doing this with my man, so it will be a blast when we get home, lol) and touch him as often as possible. Even if my Fiance isn’t in the mood per say, if I do his little “trigger” things then he becomes in the mood very quickly.

Like the PP have said, sex will always ebb and flow in a relationship, but don’t let the intimacy disappear too.

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