(Closed) I feel silly asking..

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

Our bodies are always changing, pregnancy or not. And no matter what, everyone’s body is going to eventually deteriorate, wrinkle, sag, stretch, etc. Pregnancy is just one of the many things that change our body, so that’s why it doesn’t bother me too much. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve thought the same thing. I’m still a few years away from having kids, but my mind goes to those things as well.

I was a little traumatized to hear about the darkening of nipples thing recently.

The only thing that makes me feel better is that I know a lot of moms who are actually thinner post baby. That’s what I’ll choose to hold on to ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Also not to seem offensive but to be honest if you want a baby badly enough you dont care about the vain crap that you are talking about.  I have always struggled with my weight and I don’t like every part of me.. but having a little baby in my arms will make me not care one bit if I have an extra roll or if my nipples are dark… If you will always blame your child for how your body looks then maybe kids aren’t for you… 

On the other side you might find that motherhood makes you embrace and love your body more than ever.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Honestly, you get used to the changes and just go with it. The nipple darkening is actually kind of cool the further long you get in your pregnancy. I’m 33 weeks pregnant and only now noticed stretch marks. You look forward to the bump and movement to know that someone’s growing inside of you. I’m a little insecure about my body with the bump right now, but my husband still wants sex, so he doesn’t see the bump as a hinderance. Pregnancy is what you make it to be. Some days are better than others.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think there isanything wrong with what you said. I just think it means children aren’t for you quite yet. I too, am terrified of those things, in fact, as silly as it sounds, gaining weight is one of my worst fears. So because of that, the thought of child or being pregnant sounds ridiculous. I’m sure you’ll get closer to accepting those things when you are ready. My fiancé knows how I feel about the subject and he completely Understands. Dont worry about it! Everyone has something inside that makes them feel uncomfortable or unsure of new things.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@headoverhighheels:  I just saw your age too… you have some time.  I have a feeling that in 5-10 years you will start to itch for a baby and laugh at all of these fears you are having now. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah- the changes suck. Things get stretched out and shifted and you probably will never get back to the exact body that you started with. I gained 45 lbs with my pregnancy and still have about 15 more to lose 3 months PP- I’m definitely not feeling super sexy and awesome right now. But- if I had the choice of being back to my old size or having my son, it really is no contest :). Being a parent is the greatest thing ever and it keeps getting better every day. My husband still tells me I’m beautiful and that’s all that matters :). I think if you really want to have a kid, you’ll realize there are some things that really aren’t that important. It’s not worth stressing over a few extra pounds.  

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@futuremrsbrunell  you go girl!!!!!  ๐Ÿ™‚

@headoverhighheels  I definitely don’t think children are for you right now.  Wait another 10 years and see how you feel.  If you still feel the same, don’t have kids.  I don’t have children of my own yet, but I CAN NOT WAIT!  I am recently married and my husband and I are looking forward to having kids.  I can’t wait for all the wonderful and amazing changes my body is going to go through.  I lived with a pregnant woman, and it was amazing what she went through.  I know you are young, but don’t think about the vain things.  Think about the amazing little person that will be growing inside you.  But like I said, you’re young.  Wait 10 years and see how you feel then.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You accept the changes that are happening to your body to be a beautiful thing.

It also helps that my husband loves the changes as well and is always telling me that I am beautiful.

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