(Closed) I feel so behind and I don’t know how to speed up

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sounds like you need some help and some delegating. 

If you have your colors/theme totally down (and you obvs have a date), I would ask Fiance to hurry his father alomg to get his shit together about the guest list – or they won’t be invited.  In addition, you either need to get a planner who can keep your venue on task and help you design the space, or very kindly ask a creative MOH/BM to give you some ideas/assistance. 

You’re really actually fine in terms of timelines, I promise.  But you need the damn guest list pronto.  It’s kind of hard to start on any of this without it…

Post # 5
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Then I would find a budget for a planner.  Or consider a Destination Wedding where the details don’t really matter.  Or reducing your event so much that it’s intimate and the details don’t matter. I could go on and on for your options but if you are wanting the giant princess event and have no help, and you yourself are not interested in the details, you’re going to find it very difficult to stay motivated.

Remind your fiance that there is no wedding without the guest list and you’re on strike until it happens.  Or call his dad yourself – he’ll be family in December, get used to calling!  😉

Post # 7
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SimplyMrsC: It will all be ok! I think you have a lot more crossed off your To Do List than you realize. I feel behind, too, but I am trying to focus on the big pieces before I worry about the little pieces. Once you have the major To Dos down, everything else will fall into place (or so I’ve heard).

People go crazy with their questions about every last wedding detail, and a lot of it is just curiosity and making conversation. Come up with some stock phrases (“We are still deciding on that;” “Hmm, I’m not sure yet”) and change the topic if the conversation is stressing you out.

We have had a tough time with the guest list, too. It’s hard to get everyone involved to make those decisions. It sounds like you are reaching the point where you really need to sit down with your Fiance, express to him that you (plural you) absolutely have to finalize the guest list ASAP, and have a discussion about what obstacles are in the way. If it’s his dad, you need to know, and he needs to figure out how to move forward.

I highly recommend reading A Practical Wedding. It is a zen oasis in the midst of wedding chaos. Remember that you can always turn to the bees for input and advice!

Post # 9
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SimplyMrsC:You are so welcome! I’m glad it helped. Smile It actually made me feel better to write it! I can identify with a lot of what you are going through, but I keep trying to remind myself of the end goal: To get married to the man I love (and celebrate with our loved ones)! Laughing 

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