(Closed) I feel so deflated. (NWR)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am so sorry 🙁 I don’t have much advice, to give, I just hope things get better for you. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I find it weirs..his reaction, i mean. You’re completely entitled to feel heartbrojen as i would feel too..maybe he’ll open up in the next few days and explain better..so sorry

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t get it. If you’re not trying for a baby, you’re not gonna have sex at all?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@figgnewton:  Okay, because you made it sound like because you’re not trying, you won’t ever have sex with the Virgin Mary reference.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@figgnewton:  edited my post.

I meant initiate sex with him when you’re ovulating. He won’t know when you are really, and you could always throw in other sexy time sessions to throw him off the scent?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@strawbs:  +1

 

@figgnewton:  I’ll throw this out there…having sex for the sake of having a baby is sometimes a little “less than fun” for the guy…it can create some terrific “performance anxiety”.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@strawbs:  I’m honestly just trying to clarify in my head on what exactly you mean by your post. Are you saying she should just get pregnant without telling him?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsArtsy:  +1

 

@figgnewton:  I wouldn’t suggest trying to have a baby without his knowledge or consent. I would suggest talking to him about this ‘trying’ thing though. I dunno, if I were a guy I don’t think I’d want everybody knowing I was ‘trying’…just a thought.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@figgnewton:  Haha I’m Christian and his response makes no sense. Tell him if the Lord wants you to have another child you will, and if the Lord doesn’t want you to have a child you won’t; therefore, no need to use protection because it’d be God’s will either way.

He’s hiding behind God as an excuse and that pisses me off. 

Ask him to explain his reasons, because his last answer doesn’t cut it and I’d be angry at it. It’s just using God for an excuse and insulting your intelligence at the same time.

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee

@figgnewton:  Step one would be to sit down and have a serious convo. with your husband. Find out his concerns and talk through it together.

Step two would be to stop telling your parents or anyone else when you are trying. I believe that is very private information but it also can create a lot of anxious feelings.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Is the problem that he’s tired of having sex deliberately trying to get pregnant, or does he really not want any more children?  

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