I feel so foolish asking this… but how the heck do we get officially married?!

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Here’s a page of info about getting married in New York State https://www.health.ny.gov/publications/4210/

It includes a list of people authorized to perform a marriage. That includes various court judges. Find the one on that list that’s closest to you and give them a call. They can tell you how to make an appointment with the judge and what the fee is. It won’t be free, but for getting married by a judge in a courthouse office, it’s generally a small fee (under $50) and a simple 5-minute process.

Post # 3
462 posts
Helper bee

Our wedding was officiated by a friend who had an online certificate “ordaining” her as a minister for marriage purposes. That is free!  I tihnk the certificate was from Universal Life Church?  Something like that.  You would have to check NY laws on whether that would be sufficient.  After the ceremony, we signed the marriage certificate, as did our officiant, and then we went back to city hall to turn it in, though we also could have mailed it.

That was in Colorado, though, where you don’t even need an officiant – you can self-solemnize.  I’m sure NY has a website about their marriage laws and process.  Check that out and see if they’d accept an online “minister” as officiant.

Post # 5
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We contacted the Mayor of the village we got married in. He charged $150 and took care of mailing in our marriage license! Easy peasy.

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