I feel so guilty!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Um, retroactive cheating isn’t a thing.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

You weren’t together so no it’s not cheating.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Let it go.  The only obligation you have as to exclusivity is from the point you made it exclusive and moving forward.  If you have ceased contact with your ex, you’re good.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

No, it wasn’t cheating. You didn’t even do anything with your ex, and BESIDES, A had told you already she wasn’t in love with you so nothing to feel bad about in my opinion. You can’t say that to someone & then expect them not to be physical with anyone else.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My advice is to have a cup of tea. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

No, dont feel guilty and there isn’t a need to tell her. You had a platonic sleepover with someone who had been an important part of your life. 

I’d be more worried about the idea that she only developed feelings for you after having sex. What happens when the sexual hormones/lust wears off and you both need to be in love with eachother’s personalities? 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Just continue being faithful to her during your exclusive phase. If you tell her then she’ll probably feel bad for rejecting you earlier. If she hadn’t friendzoned you then you probably wouldn’t have had a sleepover with the ex. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I was in a similar situation. I was ‘seeing’ my now Fiance. We had been on 2 dates, weren’t exclusive, I went to Las Vegas on a hen party and I slept with someone 😰

To make it worse my now Fiance messaged me the day after so ask how Las Vegas was going. 

When we eventually became exclusive the guilt was killing me. I ended up telling my now Fiance.

He was fine. In fact he looked at me (as I was crying, haha) and he said ‘and….so? We had only been on a couple of dates’

I felt so much relief and love how I feel there are no secrets between us. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

you were not exclusive therefore there is nothing to tell.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Don’t feel guilty. I understand why you do, but don’t let it drive a wedge between you and her. As long as “A” is a level minded person she will understand that what happend before her does not have anything to do with your relationship to date. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about – relax! 🙂

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