- 5 years ago
I can’t believe he would say something like that, I think you need to confront him. *Big hugs*
First off, I see this is your first post on WBee… Welcome to “the Hive”
Ok (( HUGS )) cause I know you are hurting right now…
A few facts you are forgetting, or not aware of…
1- HE IS WITH YOU
2- He IS NOT with her
3- Snooping is not healthy.
4- TRUST is the most valuable thing in a relationship
5- He should never have said those things… he was stupid to do that (the Internet is NEVER private). This could or could not be a sign of a bigger problem in your relationship… depending on what you plan to do with the info you now know.
6- YOU are a good & beautiful person, inside and out. Whether he is with you are not, you are DESERVING of someone who LOVES you for who you are. NEVER FORGET THIS !!
7- WBee does not permit people to post pictures with topics about other people… (has to do with that persons right to privacy, and chance of WBee charged with libel). This website is strictly about self-chat
Soo… chances are extremely high that if you don’t self-delete the post / pictures, that WBee will REMOVE it (and you could potentially get a TOS Warning to your account). Thought as a NEWBIE here you’d appreciate knowing that.
He thought she was “hot”… And is dating you. Your thought is “why?” clearly because he LOVES YOU! So, relax about that!
Next, I agree with @Jacqui90, he shouldn’t be talking about her…. BUT! Did he say favorable things about you? Or just say she was attractive?
@NewCastleBaby:***Big hugs*** i dont think you need to talk to him about it and it was wrong for you to snoop thru his messages but we have all been there and its never a good thing. if your SO is making you feel like your not good enough for him then i think you should leave him and find someone that adores you. your a beautiful women who deserves nothing less then a man who finds you to be hot. i had an ex that made me feel that way once i gained a few lbs i left him and 3 years later met the man im marrying. dont settle for less caz you are not less. i dont care what she looks like that has no meaning. what matters is how he treats you and makes you feel. if you dont feel beautiful with him you need to find someone that makes you feel that way caz thats what you are beautiful!
Ok, I know you are upset, and I say this with love, but it might not be a great idea to post her pic on here.
Here is the thing- she is lovely to look at, but life is about more than looks. You are pretty yourself, you know!
I do feel for you that you read his conversation, and that it upset you. I understand why it would too. I will disclose that I dated a male model in my 20’s (I am good looking, but NOT model attractive) and I do still occasionaly reminisce about how I ‘punched above my weight’ and bagged the heart of such a hottie.
BUT- I would take my reasonable looking, very beloved hubby over the hottie ex ANY DAY.
I am sure your partner would say the same.
Big hugs to you.
My boyfriend has a beauty queen of an ex too. It kind of sucks, but she’s in the past, I know he loves me, and I don’t let it affect our relationship. You just have to keep reminding yourself of that too. She’s in the past, he loves you, so don’t let her into your relationship.
Hun, I am NOT saying I would like it, by any means. I was just explaining that I too, despite being very happily partnered, have bragged about having a hottie ex.
I do not look at pictures of him though, granted.
If you do not trust him, or think this is more serious than just remembering and bragging, then you need to take it up with him for sure.
@NewCastleBaby: There’s a lot of things that can draw people together. Life pushed them together for a while for whatever reason and then moved them along. Now he’s with you, and since you’re on a wedding board, I’m assuming it’s serious. So obviously you have something that she doesn’t.
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